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mouse57 said:
Oh dear Cupid, I think I would have been shouting at him well before now. I think it's going to be difficult for you and the only thing I think you can do is to accept any help thats offered from your children and just try to keep your cool. But I would be super cool with your other half words fail me as to why he would treat you this way, yes you have done this for you firstly I hope but you have also done it to give you both a better quality of life and he needs to remember what the advantages will be. Keep your cool, keep your chin up and keep smiling. :) will be thinking of you today.
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I think it's jealousy to be honest because this morning I got up and prepped food for tonight then cooked him bacon and eggs but told him to do bread so he asked how many bacon he could have ad he knew I would want half....I don't eat bacon and said being married for 25 years he would know that to which his answer was "well nobody else would have you" he's pushed his final button now and he knows it so let's see where we go from here.
 
I would suggest raw food for tonight, you pop to a friends and see who else will come to his rescue and entertain his friends. You keep you head up and know your the better person here no matter what he says, there are some things you can just not take back once said, and I think he has now stepped over that mark.
 
hmmmmm our messages are like passing ships in the night....... so sorry i'm never here for you and repay the wonderful support you always send me :)
I think its perfectly normal to feel like nothings been done, as for that old head hunger (nasty pesk lol) i think the key is to be cautious all the way, don't over push yourself to the point of pain, but of course its a huge learning curve, and everyday seems to be different with no rhyme nor reason sometimes. Its important to take your vitamins, i forget mine, but i'm band so very difference in that respect. I think its also good to try and change that old thought process, instead of quantity, go for quality :) if you must have bread, make it the best one possible and for a treat :) for me i find it goes down better toasted, but honestly i never did bread much before anyway, but less so now..... i'd rather fill up on good fuel now :)

Hubby is a tough one, i think i learned the hard way when i was knocked off my feet with the ME...housework was an impossibility so these days its really not important, and i learned to get over my own guilt if i couldn't do it. So yes i agree i like to keep on top of it but sometimes it just needs to be put on the back burner and give yourself permission to let it get away for awhile.....especially if hubby not wanting to get stuck in and help lol i figured if he couldn't be bothered while i was poorly, then he could live in it too !!!!
with regards to the comments ignore them hunni, you chose this path for you not him...... you chose to pull yourself up out of this pit that we managed to find ourselves in........and honestly you chose it for him and the kids too......... your are more than entitled to chose a better life for yourself, which in turn will give him and the kids a better life too........ you chose to live and not to spend your later years reliant on them. Frankly it sounds like insecurities to me, is he concerned your going to change beyond compare..... maybe his concerned you are no longer going to be so reliant on him?? Some men are just scared of the changes in us...... my ex hated every time i tried to lose weight, the comments were down right nasty, but all they said was how insecure he was...... hubby number 2 has supported me all the way and frankly is loving having a dolly bird on his arm now lol Maybe it is as simple as he's not getting all the wonderful food cooked for him, and hes feeling a little neglected but that will ease of in time, once you back to normal eating :)

And frankly if you'd decided on a quiet bonfire night and he chose to invite his friends then he should at least chip in and get helping grrrrrrrrrr men !!! Do what you have to do hunni then feet up ....... crystals orders :)
Ride out the day sweetheart, see how your feeling tomorrow, am hoping it all settles down with time, but maybe its worth trying to get to the bottom of his thinking, see if you can't put his insecurities at rest...... just remind him why you did this....... its not about looks its about health and having a long healthy life with him and the kids :)

Dont feel bad, dont let this little upset rock your bubble hunni, surround yourself in that golden light and feel my love n hugs coming your way x x x x x xx x x x x x x x x

btw have a great evening tonight, dont over do it x x x x x
 
Crystalrainbow said:
hmmmmm our messages are like passing ships in the night....... so sorry i'm never here for you and repay the wonderful support you always send me :) I think its perfectly normal to feel like nothings been done, as for that old head hunger (nasty pesk lol) i think the key is to be cautious all the way, don't over push yourself to the point of pain, but of course its a huge learning curve, and everyday seems to be different with no rhyme nor reason sometimes. Its important to take your vitamins, i forget mine, but i'm band so very difference in that respect. I think its also good to try and change that old thought process, instead of quantity, go for quality :) if you must have bread, make it the best one possible and for a treat :) for me i find it goes down better toasted, but honestly i never did bread much before anyway, but less so now..... i'd rather fill up on good fuel now :) Hubby is a tough one, i think i learned the hard way when i was knocked off my feet with the ME...housework was an impossibility so these days its really not important, and i learned to get over my own guilt if i couldn't do it. So yes i agree i like to keep on top of it but sometimes it just needs to be put on the back burner and give yourself permission to let it get away for awhile.....especially if hubby not wanting to get stuck in and help lol i figured if he couldn't be bothered while i was poorly, then he could live in it too !!!! with regards to the comments ignore them hunni, you chose this path for you not him...... you chose to pull yourself up out of this pit that we managed to find ourselves in........and honestly you chose it for him and the kids too......... your are more than entitled to chose a better life for yourself, which in turn will give him and the kids a better life too........ you chose to live and not to spend your later years reliant on them. Frankly it sounds like insecurities to me, is he concerned your going to change beyond compare..... maybe his concerned you are no longer going to be so reliant on him?? Some men are just scared of the changes in us...... my ex hated every time i tried to lose weight, the comments were down right nasty, but all they said was how insecure he was...... hubby number 2 has supported me all the way and frankly is loving having a dolly bird on his arm now lol Maybe it is as simple as he's not getting all the wonderful food cooked for him, and hes feeling a little neglected but that will ease of in time, once you back to normal eating :) And frankly if you'd decided on a quiet bonfire night and he chose to invite his friends then he should at least chip in and get helping grrrrrrrrrr men !!! Do what you have to do hunni then feet up ....... crystals orders :) Ride out the day sweetheart, see how your feeling tomorrow, am hoping it all settles down with time, but maybe its worth trying to get to the bottom of his thinking, see if you can't put his insecurities at rest...... just remind him why you did this....... its not about looks its about health and having a long healthy life with him and the kids :) Dont feel bad, dont let this little upset rock your bubble hunni, surround yourself in that golden light and feel my love n hugs coming your way x x x x x xx x x x x x x x x btw have a great evening tonight, dont over do it x x x x x
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My dear friend you are always around when I need you and always with the wisest words.
I cooked and fed all his friends and now sat with my soaps he's not happy that I am but I played my part and done my bit. Big hugs xxx xxx
 
Brilliant news sweetheart enjoy your soaps ..... i'm there too :) like you say, you done your bit and now its time to rest.........you just can't burn the candle both ends right now :) maybe he'll get the idea too ............. if you'd been resting all day maybe you could have been enjoying an evening with them too!!

get stuck into that knitting and enjoy your own company for now :) x x x x x huge hugs sweetheart........ remember if you ever want me i'm at the end of the phone/txt :) x x x x
 
Crystalrainbow said:
Brilliant news sweetheart enjoy your soaps ..... i'm there too :) like you say, you done your bit and now its time to rest.........you just can't burn the candle both ends right now :) maybe he'll get the idea too ............. if you'd been resting all day maybe you could have been enjoying an evening with them too!! get stuck into that knitting and enjoy your own company for now :) x x x x x huge hugs sweetheart........ remember if you ever want me i'm at the end of the phone/txt :) x x x x
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Had a nice peaceful night at long last but go so engrossed with the tv ended up having to de shank my knitting but never the less I enjoyed it :) xxx xxx
 
WOWsers todays project !!! hell what will tomorrow bring LOL i love your vision and the money saving ideas wtg hunni it looks fab :) wouldn't mind putting my feet up beside it :) hope your doing well there sweetheart sending huge hugs x x x x x
 
Crystalrainbow said:
WOWsers todays project !!! hell what will tomorrow bring LOL i love your vision and the money saving ideas wtg hunni it looks fab :) wouldn't mind putting my feet up beside it :) hope your doing well there sweetheart sending huge hugs x x x x x
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My lad is making me new bookcases x2 and I'm going to wax them in the same colour this weekend. Rather chuffed with the result as I said.
Not feeling too bad thanks hun but sure that I'm coming down with a cold....stitches out tomorrow thank the Lord coz they are driving me mad lol.
 
Love it :) thanks for sharing :)

I remember feeling like a cold was coming post op, i think its because the immune system is low plus little intake to keep us bolstered. Mine never did come to much back then, but lately i've had a coming cold for weeks it just never arrives LOL

Keep doing what your doing and keep yourself well thats the main thing...... an very well jel of you new book cases lol can you send your boy my way when you've finished with him :) x x x
 
Crystalrainbow said:
Love it :) thanks for sharing :) I remember feeling like a cold was coming post op, i think its because the immune system is low plus little intake to keep us bolstered. Mine never did come to much back then, but lately i've had a coming cold for weeks it just never arrives LOL Keep doing what your doing and keep yourself well thats the main thing...... an very well jel of you new book cases lol can you send your boy my way when you've finished with him :) x x x
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Ah bless ya....defo a chest infection came on full force this afternoon but back at docs Tuesday. Had stitches removed today and nurse complained how tights they were and I was sure that she cut me but she said not. This evening my shirt stuck and when I lifted it one of incisions had opened up, rang docs no appointments until Wednesday so just see docs on Tuesday :( if it opens any more will defo be going to drop in :(
 
Blinking heck, you could do with some antibiotics for chest before Tuesday.
I hope your incisions going to be ok, I think you should go to drop in anyway just in case.
 
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