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My Gastric Bypass Journey -Onwards and Upwards-Well this is a start

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Cripes, if you're lucky enough to be getting some, then go for it girl!!! :p

And I agree... smut rules!!!

I remember on the Cambridge Dieters site my best mate set up, we had a Smut Corner and it was hilarious... but when she moved overseas, CD actually bought it from her and banned the Smut Corner!!! :eek:

We were gutted... but now another mate has set up a private forum for the gang, and we smut it out 24/7 with no CD police to stop us!!! LOL!!! :D

Right, I digress... just wanted to say hi and well done on your weightloss so far!!! It's fab :)

Where did you have your op again?

*hugs*

PS I'm just down the road from you, in Andover :)
 
Nope, I am still waiting!!! My 'D-Day' is 17th July... :)

And it would be fab to meet up at some point! What are you doing at 5pm?!!! :cool:

*teehehe*

x
 
Morning everyone.........

I am rather tired today, had a long night last night...... so feeling it this morning, mind you so is all the family.... so have decided after work, i am going home going to have a nice soak, then pjs on and a nice relaxing night...

But first I have to finish a day at work,,,,,
 
love the sound of the soak, and pj evening, sounds like bliss - just what you need - a bit of 'me' time... work will soon be over, make sure you enjoy your evening x
 
Thanks Livvy

Was just thinking about you, and then saw you left me a message!!!! how freaky is that..........

How you doing feel like not spoke to you in ages LOL...

Love to you
 
hi mandy, thanks for the card, it arrived yesterday :D got confused at first cos I have a volunteer called Mandy but eventually my dim-witted brain figured it out!
 
Morning Everyone

Well I went home, cooked tea, staright away...... then hubby ran me a lovely hot bath... with bubbly's it was heaven!!!!!!!!!!

went to bed, was up half night, woke up this morning and it was nearly 8 oclock...... so now i feel even more shattered!!!!!!!!!!!

But on a good note, took some of sara's advice and had a teasoon of mushy peas and they stayed down!!!!!!!!!!!! woooooohoooooooooo
 
:sign0168::sign0168: you too..... the weirdest thing is i hate mushy peas or rather i did!!!!!!!!!!! Think green would go lovely with my purple hair don't you
 
Well guys............

Feeling a bit nervous, i ma meeting my dad tonight, so we can have a long chat!!!!! just me and him..... I have decided I am goign to be the adult and tell him straight....... but starting to feel scared!!!!!!!!! don't think it will go down to well...

Some of you already know the situation but for those that don't.... my dad left when i was 13, and left me with the thing you call a mother and abusive brother and i add i had just had a child.... and he stayed out of my life up untill last July...... I always wanted my dad, and truthfully i worshipped him (boy was i wearing tainted glasses) then he came back and it has been a rough ride! his new partner looks and behaves just like my mother which is off putting!!!

My father acts like the big I am.......... he din't support me threw my op and told me it was silly of me but my attitude was he has been out of my life for 20 years and has no right to tell me what to do (very stubborn)..

On my bday he turned up, no card, no happy bday nothing... my anniversary do he arrived, didnt speak i asked to have my picture taken with him he refused then left... i then found out him, his partner and my so called mate had all sat and slagged me off for having this op.....

The following day i recieved a gabbled text from him, and replied i was fuming, but basically fo rthe last 7-8 weeks have not spoken with him.... i was sick of making the first move and decided to wait for him to contact me he didn't!!!!!!! that little girl in me wanted her dad!!!!!!!!!(how sad)

When he first came into my life, he would text and call me everyday, tell me how he was here for me and he loved me and wanted to be part of my son's life.. all he usul stuff, then he moved 5 miles down the road and BAM!!!!!!! never hear a thing....... so tonight is the night..... i am goign to tell him enough is enough, he either steps up or he can step out for good!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But the nerves are setting in, and i wanna scoff comfort food.... what if i turn into a little girl and crumble... always been a problem for me......

sorry for rambling but need to shout out my feelings and thoughs..........
 
Mandy i think you should just do it, my god youl feel better - tell him exactly how you feel, how dare he slag you off and patronise you when he was out of your life for 20 years - pathetic and a damn cheek!
Ive been through some rather intersting family experiences throughout the years and telling people how i really felt lifted a huge weight off my shoulders and has defintely made me a better person.
Claim your life back and dont take that crap, he doesnt really have the right to call himself your dad when he cant really step it You can do it hun - and dont take any more crap off him.
 
saraian24 said:
Mandy i think you should just do it, my god youl feel better - tell him exactly how you feel, how dare he slag you off and patronise you when he was out of your life for 20 years - pathetic and a damn cheek!
Ive been through some rather intersting family experiences throughout the years and telling people how i really felt lifted a huge weight off my shoulders and has defintely made me a better person.
Claim your life back and dont take that crap, he doesnt really have the right to call himself your dad when he cant really step it You can do it hun - and dont take any more crap off him.
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Thank you so much Hun thats putting me in fighting spirit
 
Hey Mandy, huge hugs for you.

I have had a turbulent relationship with my father, he is the main root cause of my low self esteem and self worth. All through my childhood I was never good enough for him and now I'm his embarrassing fat disabled daughter. For example, I eat left handed even though I'm right handed and my father could never accept that. When I went to stay with him he would force me to eat right handed and if I couldn't i wasn't allowed to eat.

When I was 23 or so I emailed him a massive long email going through all the things he'd ever done to wrong me or hurt me and told him exactly how I felt and how he'd affected my life. It was hard and scary but the best thing I've ever done.

For a few years after that our relationship was tense and strained, I still saw him as he came to visit my son etc, but I was careful never to be alone with him and hardly spoke to him at first.

Now our relationship is slowly healing. He knows that I won't tolerate him treating me in that way and he knows now that I will stand up to him if I'm not happy. He also knows I will NOT tolerate him treating my son how he treated me and that if he ever does he will never see him again. Now we talk, I don't feel so tense or strained around him, and I've forgiven him for alot of what he did. I went through counselling and it took a lot of work to get to that stage though.

What I'm saying is that sometimes they need to hear the effects of their words and their actions laid out bare for them. They're men and we all know that men don't respond to subtlety or tact, they need it blunt!

Good luck, stay strong, and remember you are a worthy mature woman and you decide how he treats you.
 
Thanks shel but i know my father he won't listern.. he will walk away and that will be then end of it in his eyes............

I end up hurt again
 
mandy-1975 said:
Thanks shel but i know my father he won't listern.. he will walk away and that will be then end of it in his eyes............

I end up hurt again
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But hes then shown you how weak he is - and that he really is a failure as a father to walk out once is heartbreaking but to walk out twice - pathetic. If he does that mandy hes not the father you need in your life.

You deserve so much more then that.
 
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