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Caroline101061

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I dont think that this site, as lovely as it is, is right for me any more - all the people who are at the same sort of stage as me post surgery seem to have disappeared and after someone who I tried to give advice to yesterday was so rude to me, I dont feel that I really want to post anymore so I wish everyone the best of luck with their weight loss journeys and its goodbye from me.
 
i just read your posts and think you are worrying about nothing. I need people like you to advise me when i am post op. XX
 
People do take the context on forums wrong as the typed word is different from the spoken word. Only leave if you feel you really want to leave, not because of one incident.

I know there are loads of people that want more and more information and advice. It would be a shame if they were to lose what you have experienced!
 
Thats a real shame Caroline, I know which post you mean but I really dont think the person was intentionally rude. Its easy to missinterpret the written word. I hope you reconsider as your advice to many has been very valued x
 
Caroline101061 said:
I dont think that this site, as lovely as it is, is right for me any more - all the people who are at the same sort of stage as me post surgery seem to have disappeared and after someone who I tried to give advice to yesterday was so rude to me, I dont feel that I really want to post anymore so I wish everyone the best of luck with their weight loss journeys and its goodbye from me.
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It is a shame you have decided to leave. Personally, I think it is the post opers who made this site as good as it is. I have trailed through the net, books, magazines etc and there is no where that I have got as straight forward, real and honest advice as I have here.

I understand your reasons for going but it would be great if you stayed.
 
Caroline, if you decide to leave that's up to you, but don't base it around something as silly as that! I too don't think it was meant in the way you have taken it at all and it certainly wouldn't be enough to make me want to leave the site and stop helping others whom I can offer advice and support to. Why don't you pm the person involved and discuss it with her?

Cuppa xx
 
Caroline.

On other foums I have experienced ill feeling. You get that from time to time. In fact I have encountered total complete utter b******'s. Cried a few times over them in fact.

If I had not encountered this particular forum, with the people on it that have encouraged me personally, or read the threads that have appeared here, in particular the diaries I would not be where I am today. Not so informed, prepared and up to date with news etc. And it is ALL due to members like you.

I think people will move on as weight becomes less of an issue with them. they will find new interests, its all part of the process. But there will still be people like me, pre op, who will need people like you.
 
I think we need people from all angles those that had the op a while ago, those not long had it, those that are just going through it and those like myself still waiting. Please stick around. If you still choose not too then good luck with the rest of your journey.
 
This is all true hun please don't take one incident as a reason to leave I think the lady in question was probably nervous and confused as this is a scarey time as we know and it is a tense time when sometimes tempers fray a little I doubt she meant to have a go at you. Please reconsider and stay and help others with your valued advice. The advice given on this site is worth more than any book or doctor can give as it is from people who have gone through it like you and thats what people need on here first hand experience and people who know exactly how they feel not advice from people who have read it in a book. You are invaluable to new people facing the operation who need advice and support.
xxxxxx
 
Caroline, I wanted to say to you that I understand how you feel. I am the kind of person who wades in and offers her opinion all the time. And I have had my fair share of people who did not appreciate my advice or misunderstood my intent, it happens. We are all vulnerable and delicate when it comes to our eating habits, many of us have spent entire lifetimes trying to make the newest fad diet a success so we can get snippy when we feel we are being criticized. It also works the other way, we may feel brave to offer an opinion and be very sensitive if it is not well received. As long as you know that your advice is coming for a good place, try not to focus on what some people might say when they feel vulnerable. Emotions run very high after wls and well, we are all pretty scared that somehow we will be the one person who is able to screw it up or end-up with a serious complication. So give yourself a break and remember that posts cannot emote, when you type you cannot hear the tone in someone's voice or the look on their face, so you can get the meaning and intent all wrong.

I hope you stick around because all the people who have posted here including me feel like you have lots to give the forum and we all want to be able to give you support when you need it.

Nic;)
 
Guys you are all being very sweet. Aside of Nic and Neen, noone has told me that they were there to support me - just that they would miss my support and I think thats the whole crux of the problem. Those of us who are fairly well past the starting point like me, have noone to relate to - you are all pre or just post op. People being jerks I can take in my stride but having felt this for a while now, the stupid comment just was the metaphorical straw that broke the camels back. Just cause we are over 6 months post op, we have issues too you know!
 
Very well said Nic xx :D
 
Caroline, I am still here and our surgery was only 2 weeks apart. I hope you do stay because this place wouldnt be anything without the people that have been through everything the new people are thinking....

I dont often ask many questions on here and would see myself as an advice giver rather than receiver, but that doesnt mean that at some time I wont need advice and its having people like yourself around that give me the confidence to know that I will be able to get the help I need if the situation arises.

We dont know each other on a personal level but I do read your posts and know you would be missed by all.....

I hope you do stay.

Mark x
 
Caroline there are lots of users here who had their op done 6 months ago or more, I know that as when I read a post I always look at weightlosses and how long it has taken them to lose it. Perhaps they don't post quite as regularly but that's to be expected. These people, including yourself, are just as valued as those whom are pre op or have just had their ops. I for example, at 2 months post op, would look to someone like you to see what's likely to come further down the line.

I really hope that you, and any other post oppers of 6 months, 12 months, 18 months further on don't leave. We need you!!

Cuppa xx
 
Six months post also. I find that Im more an advisor now but Im sure that if I did or anyone for that matter needed support they would find it here.
 
Caroline is a very special person and i became friends with her when i posted one day that i was not allowed to drive whilst waiting for my sleep apnoea results, i had never spoken to Caroline b4 and she sent me a pm offering her services to drive me to any appointments i had or just if i wanted to go out and about and even with my 2 dogs, Caroline lives about 45 mins drive from me and has become a fab friend and come down to visit me and pick me up and supported me big time.

Caroline if you leave the site you will be so badly missed, we need members like you who have a wealth of experience and who are here to offer support to everyone, but i can totally understand how you feel after reading the post.
I am here to support you 100% and will always be as you have become a true friend to me.
Take care hun luv Roch xxx
 
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