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wants to know in 1 or 2 words how your feeling 2day
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mightyminx49
Proud grandmother of 7
Am sick as a bloody chip :'( No sleep for me last night 
Am having a milky coffee to try stop the shakes. Will have a yoghurt later. Roll on lunch time when my soup will be ready. yummmmmyyyy
Am having a milky coffee to try stop the shakes. Will have a yoghurt later. Roll on lunch time when my soup will be ready. yummmmmyyyy
Tinkerbellx
New Member
So shattered, have moved daughter out if Uni halls to private rent ... How can a child have so much stuff in a little room ....
brad scott
New Member
has never been so f*****g angry in my life i need advice people please be honest with my right here we go.......
my gorjus 4 yr old son is not actually my son but i met his mum when he was 10 months old and fell in love with them both we do not live 2gether for reasons beyond my control at the moment (money) we are such a happy family and i am proud that he calls me daddy,
Ok his real dad has had no contact with him since he was 6 months old not 1 bday card xmas prezzie etc and not paid 1p in csa payments i get home from work 2day am my gf in in tears she has a letter from his solicitors saying he wants back in his life i understand he has rights as he is his father but im his daddy there is a huge difference im the one who has cleaned the poo picked him up when hes fallen over and rushed to hospital when he has been really poorly i am now so scared that this guy is gonna take everythingive worked so hard to gain i know this is nothing to do with weight loss and its a little more than 1 or 2 words but your honest advice would help me i have spoken to a solicitor but they have to make decisions with there head not heart i had this op so i could be the best dad i poosibly could be for him football etc i just hope my title dad can stay xx
my gorjus 4 yr old son is not actually my son but i met his mum when he was 10 months old and fell in love with them both we do not live 2gether for reasons beyond my control at the moment (money) we are such a happy family and i am proud that he calls me daddy,
Ok his real dad has had no contact with him since he was 6 months old not 1 bday card xmas prezzie etc and not paid 1p in csa payments i get home from work 2day am my gf in in tears she has a letter from his solicitors saying he wants back in his life i understand he has rights as he is his father but im his daddy there is a huge difference im the one who has cleaned the poo picked him up when hes fallen over and rushed to hospital when he has been really poorly i am now so scared that this guy is gonna take everythingive worked so hard to gain i know this is nothing to do with weight loss and its a little more than 1 or 2 words but your honest advice would help me i have spoken to a solicitor but they have to make decisions with there head not heart i had this op so i could be the best dad i poosibly could be for him football etc i just hope my title dad can stay xx
MrsSmith
New Member
I really sympathise, my husband and I (sound like the Queen now!) both have children from previous relationships and it has all been a real rollercoaster ride because of this. We only ever argue about his kids and his ex who had poisoned his daughters against be from day one.
So, I would say that it seems awful and disruptive to your lives now, but things will settle down. The most important thing to remember is that your lovely son will know that you are his proper Dad really.
Hope everything works out for you xx
So, I would say that it seems awful and disruptive to your lives now, but things will settle down. The most important thing to remember is that your lovely son will know that you are his proper Dad really.
Hope everything works out for you xx
Tinkerbellx
New Member
Hi, I had a similar situation... My daughters sperm donor aka her dad left me wen I was 6 months pregnant had nothing to do with her. I met a guy wen my Fran was 4 months old he raised her as her own she called him dad just the same as the little las in your life. 18 years later Fran real dad got in contact with her we all live in the same town .... As she pit it to me he didn't bring me up he is a stranger to me ... Dad brought me up looked after me and loved me.... My words are don't let the little lad see that it's upsetting u or ur girlfriend. He knows you both love him. Little one may not even want to go with him .... And wouldn't make him. I wish the three of you well xxx
suepat10
New Member
Totally agree with the others - a 'dad' is the man who wipes both ends of they child (the butt and the tears).
The one exception to this is a case like Mrs Smith's (and my darling partner's) where the father is desparate to be 'dad' but the ex is vindictive and causes problems!
Brad - you ARE dad. There is a good chance that this man may 'wander in' and then just 'wander straight back out again. Even if he hangs around, you will be the stable factor. The person your son sees making his mum happy.
IF he does hang about, don't 'dis' him when your son's around. The father will be the one who can do the fun things without the stuff kids hate (mum and you will be the ones setting guidelines, rules, room tidying instructions!). IF he stays around as your son grows you may get the 'father lets me do this, that , the other'. There will be a LOT of lip biting BUT it is worth it. Deep down kids DO know where they are better off.
Whatever happens over the ensuing months, keep calm about the whole thing. Be seen to be mature and responsible and you will be seen in a positive light by all involved. xx
The one exception to this is a case like Mrs Smith's (and my darling partner's) where the father is desparate to be 'dad' but the ex is vindictive and causes problems!
Brad - you ARE dad. There is a good chance that this man may 'wander in' and then just 'wander straight back out again. Even if he hangs around, you will be the stable factor. The person your son sees making his mum happy.
IF he does hang about, don't 'dis' him when your son's around. The father will be the one who can do the fun things without the stuff kids hate (mum and you will be the ones setting guidelines, rules, room tidying instructions!). IF he stays around as your son grows you may get the 'father lets me do this, that , the other'. There will be a LOT of lip biting BUT it is worth it. Deep down kids DO know where they are better off.
Whatever happens over the ensuing months, keep calm about the whole thing. Be seen to be mature and responsible and you will be seen in a positive light by all involved. xx
mightyminx49
Proud grandmother of 7
Brad, to state the obvious without upsetting you further I would say that there is more to being a dad and you fit the profile "DAD". Biology is about all that the other guy has with your little boy. As you so rightly pointed out, you have been there for him, mopped up after him, and many other things. The main and most important thing is YOU LOVE him like he is your biological son. The courts will undoubtedly do what is right for your little boy but they are human too and will take into consideration everything that has or has not happened between the biological father and the real father. Believe me the out come will be the right one for your little boy. Feel comforted that you have shaped him into the lovely little boy he is today. Good luck and just on a personal note......... You look a FAB DAD. x
MrsSmith
New Member
Superb advice, as ever, from Suepat.
What you do now and how you speak in front of your son is so key as it will shape things going forward.
When my sons first met my now husband 5 years ago, their biological father told them they had better look smart and be polite; from that day on the relationships between all of them have been superb.
However, when my husband told his ex that he wanted his daughters to meet me, she went ballistic, in front of the girls obviously, and prevented them from meeting me for 6 months, during which time she did everything she could to badmouth me (we have never actually met); so by the time we did meet the damage was done and have an awful relationship now because of it.
So, even though your son is young, do not underestimate what he is taking in. It will be hard, but try and be positive about his father in front of him as you will all reap the benefits of that in the long run.
Family life is hard sometimes :-( xx
What you do now and how you speak in front of your son is so key as it will shape things going forward.
When my sons first met my now husband 5 years ago, their biological father told them they had better look smart and be polite; from that day on the relationships between all of them have been superb.
However, when my husband told his ex that he wanted his daughters to meet me, she went ballistic, in front of the girls obviously, and prevented them from meeting me for 6 months, during which time she did everything she could to badmouth me (we have never actually met); so by the time we did meet the damage was done and have an awful relationship now because of it.
So, even though your son is young, do not underestimate what he is taking in. It will be hard, but try and be positive about his father in front of him as you will all reap the benefits of that in the long run.
Family life is hard sometimes :-( xx
Tinkerbellx
New Member
In Starbucks waiting fir my car to be serviced long wait ahead one thinks xxx
mightyminx49
Proud grandmother of 7
HUNGRY!!!!!!! 
:argh: :cry:
:argh: :cry:
Miss Tickle
Well-Known Member
Should feel hungry, but just feel really, really tired
brad scott
New Member
tired but cant wait till wednesday 12pm im finished work for the week yay!!!!
starr
very happy post opper
giggling and snooping ! lol,,,,,,,looking out my window ,watching people try to park as near to the beach as possible,theres 12 steps and 14ft road between beach and my front gate,but they try to park 18ft cars in 3ft spaces,lol, and across my drive,then moaning when we ask them to move so we can go out ;lol,its free alday parking down the road,,,,madness! but funny!,i love the summer!
brad scott
New Member
has finished work for the week been to the gym now for some shoppingt good times all round woooooo!!!!!
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