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[piratess]

Hi TB i know what its like when they go home, i really feel for you its awful so im sending you lots of hugs xxxxx
mine arrive tomorow for a few days and i cannot wait.

I need to babble and some imput .... you have been warned
Ok so when i went to see my dr about bandin we spoke a little about my food intake and my habits and the fact that its stemmed from my long term abusive relationship i had from being 16-24 . She said no to surger, but she did say that maybe i would benefit from some Cognetive Behavioural Therapy (funds willing)
Has anyone ever had this? and im just wondering if this would benefit me in dealing with my demons?

Im feeling thoroughly fed up tonight my feet kill me it is almost unbearable to stand and when i do to take the weight from one foot to take a step kills me to the point im holding back the tears tonight....

grrrr sorry for bringing things down tonight

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Piratess I have never had cbt but I imagine anything that will allow you to examine why food is an issue in a safe way and develop some coping mechanisms has to be good. Hope someone who has experience of this comes along soon with some advice.

Enjoy your time with your folks.

tranquil x

 

[Neen]

Hey girls...I've been on here most of the day...can't move lol!!

I tell you what Piratess , I had some really good councelling and my lady had the usual qualifications plsu did a lot of hollistic stuff as well. It was the beginning of healing for me.
It triggered us moving house and also it helped me make the decision for surgery too.
Grab the chance sweetheart because whatever helps you move away from daily pain and feeling helpless is worth trying.
Wether you have a band or not, you are one of us now and I promise I will help with anything I can...also I know how crap it is to be in pain as soon as your feet hit the floor in the morning.
I guarantee you that things will change, same applies for anyone struggling at whatever stage.
We will get through each day, each mealtime and each moment together and get this fat off us. I will send you some hypnosis I use as it does help a bit I think...and will be something to start with along with your therapy..

If we can get our minds on the right track, we have already won the battle..the rest is just a matter of time.
You have a fantastic time with your folks and look forward to that therapy because you might find it helps a lot x I certainly hope so x

TB aw you daftie!! You ought to have caught up with your sleep! I hope that despite missing that , you have been able to enjoy your day.
I have been posting a lot as I am in a knot with period pain and I forgot to buy soluable pain killers this week...what a dorcus malorkus!

 

[piratess]

Neen thankyou thankyou ... you speak so much sence the Hypnosis sounds wonderful and i would love to give them a try, do you need my email etc? ..
im going to ring docs in the morning and go back, see what they say and what they can offer me realisticly.

watch this space girls i cannot go on like this. xxxx

 

[Neen]

You'll be OK , don't be worried xxxx You can't get rid of me now, I am on a mission to help sort you out x

 

[piratess]

Do ya know what, i feel like i have no fight at the moment but i smiled ...
Neen it feels so nice, you all understand,Its just not the same talking to my OH he doesnt understand how could he? .. he sees is as eat less do more simples! ... im sure he just smiles and nods and agrees in the right places. I know he tries and he listens but ............ hes just not hearing me (hope that makes sence)

want to say i feel at home here i dont feel i have to be somone im not,
no pretence just me! ...xxxxx

 

[Neen]

I'm glad to hear that hun xxx We have been in that crazy place where you're tearing yourself apart...one side of you on self destruct and one side knowing what should be done and what it would mean to be able to.

The band didn't get me sorted by itself...it's only in the last year or so if that .. even less probably.

Everyone can manage a good day. We get through one good day and then we start all over again the next. Breaking it all right down like that means we win through more and that builds our confidence slowly, then finally we start to believe we can actually do what we thought was impossible.
No matter what you used to think..or even think right now.
You can change things and make things better for yourself.
Get the day in hand done first x

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Morning all. I have worked out that it may be hay fever that is making me feel so odd at the moment. It was not something I suffered with until about 3 years ago. Going to dig out some medication left over from last year and start taking them.

I have had a message to say my mom landed safely. Could not sleep worrying about it. It is a long journey when you are fit and healthy let alone when you are 76, diabetic and not mobile. I miss her so much already.

Well I am due in the office today but it is taking a while for me to feel like getting going. Will go in a bit.

Have a blessed day everyone.

tranquil x

 

[Neen]

You take it easy TB xxxxx

 

[hope2bthina]

Morning all. I have worked out that it may be hay fever that is making me feel so odd at the moment. It was not something I suffered with until about 3 years ago. Going to dig out some medication left over from last year and start taking them.

I have had a message to say my mom landed safely. Could not sleep worrying about it. It is a long journey when you are fit and healthy let alone when you are 76, diabetic and not mobile. I miss her so much already.

Well I am due in the office today but it is taking a while for me to feel like getting going. Will go in a bit.

Have a blessed day everyone.

tranquil x

My hayfever reared it's ugly head in the february school holidays...hopefully shud go by juneish normally does. Glad your mum arrived home safely xx

 

[hope2bthina]

Morning peeps, went to the dr's last night with little man so didn't get to rc, shall weigh in and do class on thursday. Getting my hair cut later so that shud be a lb at least lol. Got some jacket spud skin stuck last nite..ow! i really need to get a grip with this chewing malarky.

Hope you are feeling better today piratess, neen keep those positive vibes coming xx

I'm going to do my exercises in a bit, just waiting for jay's milkshake(kids tv) to finish...so strap everything down ladies . If i survive i'll be back later xx

 

[Neen]

Hope he's fully recovered soon for you Kelly , it's a worry xx
Your BMI is looking good!!! Well done! Do you feel better in yourself?
I just got back from taking the kids in. Our youngest is doing me in at the moment. He's usually high maintenance anyway but he's been slipping into overdrive.
LOL I am hobbling around like a panto witch at the moment...doing the kettle bell done me in physically as well ..I have to sit down in a zigzag motion...not easy if you're busting for a wee I can tell you.

 

[magicbeans]

talking of BMI's look at urs as well neen!!

kelly hope excercise goes well....what do u do?

two weeks and a day!! woooo

 

[piratess]

Morning friends

Magic .. not long now! those days will wizz by
TB .. hope your managing to rest a little, dont go doing to much!
Neen You hobbing round like a panto witch did make me giggle.
Kelly good luck with all that jumpin about malarky! lol

Well ive tidied like a mad woman this morning, not sure what time the parents arrive ... I feel a bit brighter still fed up bout my feet and ankles and know that later i will be suffering my knees start aching at night to now ...

On a more positive note i have made an appointment at the docs for monday morning to go and discuss my weight and some therapy

 

[Neen]

Lol Magic ..still a long way to go for me, but it's definately do-able !
Your avatar always makes me grin heehee

Piratess... I am thrilled to hear you have something booked. Good on ya.
I wish with all my heart I didn't wait for the surgery to start changing my life.
There are many many things you can do now to help yourself , just tackle it in small steps and don't listen to the little voice telling you you can't..because it's wrong x

 

[Katkit1]

Do ya know what, i feel like i have no fight at the moment but i smiled ...
Neen it feels so nice, you all understand,Its just not the same talking to my OH he doesnt understand how could he? .. he sees is as eat less do more simples! ... im sure he just smiles and nods and agrees in the right places. I know he tries and he listens but ............ hes just not hearing me (hope that makes sence)

want to say i feel at home here i dont feel i have to be somone im not,
no pretence just me! ...xxxxx

Piratess - Were all here to support you hun, sometimes it can feel like you`re on your own. Husbands/partners have their uses.......but in some areas they think they have the easy answers; and it can be much more complicated than that!

So pleased that you feel relaxed enough to say what you feel and no one is going to judge you. You are certainly among friends on here hun x






Love Kat x

 

[Neen]

Men try and fix stuff with the logical answer.
Him saying the obvious is not him being insensitive , he is just trying to be logical and offer a solution.
He loves you and he knows you're unhappy, but their brains are just wired different.
When we discuss our problems they often don't understand you just want a sympathetic ear for your feelings, they think you want a solution. Sometimes there just isn't one.
We're here for thrashing out the emotional bit x

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Evening all. Thank you for all your good wishes. Mom arrived back safely. I spoke to her a a little while ago. She is tired...bless her. My Dad is glad to have her back - it was a long time to be away from each other at their age.

I think I need to find another job. I am totally exhausted and I got a phone call from someone today that has made me start to wonder if this is a means of getting me to quit anyway. Forewarned is forearmed I guess but I really do not know what I have done to deserve this. It is not making me want to reach for food or drink - just makes me very sad.

Hope you all are well.

tranquil x

 

[Neen]

Good news!!! I told ya get that CV out there xxxxx

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Good news!!! I told ya get that CV out there xxxxx

You know something, I have been sitting here thinking about it - rather than go have my oxtail soup and I will go on my terms when I am ready.

I have been at that place for nearly 22 years, I have had to fight for every promotion and watch people who came in after me get there first. The place has broken my health twice and it is not going to break it for a third time. Surgery not only gave me the chance to get my health back - it has also helped me grow a couple of balls (excuse the terminology) - my boss has eroded my fight over the years.

That fight is back. But I am not going to waste my new found energy on work - there are a lot more things in my life that deserve that. My boss is going to be like a buzzing fly that irritates - best ignored or swatted away - and if they do not take the hint - you get out the fly killer...get my drift.

Now at 10 pm I better go have my soup.

tranquil x