Countdown to Balloon Launch

[femfrankie]

I'm so all over the place and don't know where to go or what to do!!!!
Had two days training over the weekend. Done the best I possibly could!
The trainer told me she doesn't like the way I dress, my makeup, my hair, I talk too Dublin! (I am so not common) I'm too negative and that's just a few things she said!
She has picked holes in everything I have said and done!
My family told me not to go back near her and forget about the job!
I need to loose another two stone to start the job and I'm not sure I can do it anywhere near her!
I'm not perfect but she has just made me feel like *****!! And that I'm worth nothing.
Sorry

carol b

And she's your trainer?? Wow

I would walk away from this lady if she is your trainer. This kind of talk is not motivational at all. If she is you employer then she is bullying you hun and that is just so wrong on all counts and not acceptable. You need to bring her to task if that is the case. Not sure how employment laws work in Ireland but pretty sure this kind of behaviour would be frowned upon.

 

[Yvessa]

Has she given you written feedback? If not ask for feedback in writing so that you can work on the point she's mentioned. If she writes it all down, you can make a complaint on the grounds that these things won't affect your ability to do the job. Why do you need to lose weight to do it?

If she refuses to give you written feedback speak to her line manager.

 

[femfrankie]

It will happen hon I still have days where I get a bit of knee pain, but it took me hitting the 19s before my sleep apnoea resolved. And I still am not massively fit although I am much better than I was. I need to pull my finger out and find the time to be more active - I'm great in the holidays but in the term time I'm either teaching, planning, cooking or sleeping!

Thanks Yve
It was one of the things that mr Stuart commented on at my app on Thursday, albeit jokingly, that I was still using my sticks and that I should throw them away. I'm afraid that ain't going to happen any time soon lol I would never get about as my knee pain is still very much there and they have the habit of "slipping"
No sticks no exercise lol.
Holidays are the one time in my past that I would always lose weight while everybody else would pile it on. I always put it down to the fact that i was more active and you could never get me out the pool. I still haven't plucked up the courage to go to our public swimming pool yet. I worry about getting into it for a start as it does not have a walkway down into it just those step laddery things which is not going to work with my knees. I would get down them with little problem but there ain't now way I could get back up em, wll not without making a spectacle of myself lol

 

[femfrankie]

Has she given you written feedback? If not ask for feedback in writing so that you can work on the point she's mentioned. If she writes it all down, you can make a complaint on the grounds that these things won't affect your ability to do the job. Why do you need to lose weight to do it?

If she refuses to give you written feedback speak to her line manager.

Ditto on this Yve x

 

[cb4]

And she's your trainer?? Wow

I would walk away from this lady if she is your trainer. This kind of talk is not motivational at all. If she is you employer then she is bullying you hun and that is just so wrong on all counts and not acceptable. You need to bring her to task if that is the case. Not sure how employment laws work in Ireland but pretty sure this kind of behaviour would be frowned upon.

Yea she's the trainer and the one that hires and fires! It's for weight loss consultancy the job so I'm quite ok with loosing the weight but its the rest!!!
She was so negative!!! No need! Support!
I could have come home and binged like I used to. Instead I had a banana and a green tea!!! Such a break through!!!! Off out for a little jog this morning

carol b

 

[Yvessa]

Yea she's the trainer and the one that hires and fires! It's for weight loss consultancy the job so I'm quite ok with loosing the weight but its the rest!!!
She was so negative!!! No need! Support!
I could have come home and binged like I used to. Instead I had a banana and a green tea!!! Such a break through!!!! Off out for a little jog this morning

carol b

I would definitely complain as there's no place for that behavior in the workplace.

 

[Yvessa]

Thanks Yve
It was one of the things that mr Stuart commented on at my app on Thursday, albeit jokingly, that I was still using my sticks and that I should throw them away. I'm afraid that ain't going to happen any time soon lol I would never get about as my knee pain is still very much there and they have the habit of "slipping"
No sticks no exercise lol.
Holidays are the one time in my past that I would always lose weight while everybody else would pile it on. I always put it down to the fact that i was more active and you could never get me out the pool. I still haven't plucked up the courage to go to our public swimming pool yet. I worry about getting into it for a start as it does not have a walkway down into it just those step laddery things which is not going to work with my knees. I would get down them with little problem but there ain't now way I could get back up em, wll not without making a spectacle of myself lol

It frustrated me at first that although there were differences, initially I was still easily tired and I would get sore seemingly easily. On reflection though I was doing so much more. So not only did I have a body structure that my skeleton was no longer adjusted to - I was making it do more! I now find that there are days when I get knee pain if I've overdone it - but overdoing it means I've done a heck of a lot more than before. Equally I have found my Assbone. It hates chairs.

 

[femfrankie]

It frustrated me at first that although there were differences, initially I was still easily tired and I would get sore seemingly easily. On reflection though I was doing so much more. So not only did I have a body structure that my skeleton was no longer adjusted to - I was making it do more! I now find that there are days when I get knee pain if I've overdone it - but overdoing it means I've done a heck of a lot more than before. Equally I have found my Assbone. It hates chairs.

Oh there is definetly no denying it. I am more mobile and therefore I am doing lots more but as you say my body structure hasn't quite kept up with its changing body mass. Hopefully it will at some point but until then i suppose i have to face facts that im not getting any younger and with this new forced change on my body I am just going to have to be patient with it till it does catch up

 

[Yvessa]

I was having massive back pain at one point because of the loose skin etc. Mine is pretty okay but it was making my back ache. Spoke to my gp today who said to watch the space as he is looking into plastics for another patient of his and he would be happy to refer me.

 

[treacles1977]

Oh dear ladies hope all is well soon xx

Carol, how terrible that someone can make you feel do bad , I'm sorry for that. Why do people feel like they need to do it?
Keep smiling.... You've done amazingly well.

You have all done so well!!!!!
Rebecca

 

[femfrankie]

Oh dear ladies hope all is well soon xx

Carol, how terrible that someone can make you feel do bad , I'm sorry for that. Why do people feel like they need to do it?
Keep smiling.... You've done amazingly well.

You have all done so well!!!!!
Rebecca

Just one of those things Rebecca. It would be wrong of me to pin the pain I'm experiencing solely on the weight loss as I have suffered from degenerative disc disease in 90% of my discs for many years now & my knees are the problem that started me on this journey in the first place. It is however not uncommon for those with lots of weight loss to suffer from skeletal & muscular pain as our postures change through the course of its journey. X

 

[femfrankie]

I was having massive back pain at one point because of the loose skin etc. Mine is pretty okay but it was making my back ache. Spoke to my gp today who said to watch the space as he is looking into plastics for another patient of his and he would be happy to refer me.

That's interesting to know Yve ... Keep me posted too x

 

[treacles1977]

It's 5 weeks to my balloon and I'm starting to wish I'd chosen a band as I'm terrified that it won't work !!! I'm getting anxious in my sleep and am pretty agitated around food at the minute.

Any tips to ease the nerves or uneasy feelings ??

X

 

[femfrankie]

This is something that you need to discuss with your provider Rebecca as everybody has different expectations of what they need as regards WLS. As discussed earlier the balloon is only meant to be in place for 6-12 months dependant on what type you have. Once removed your stomach returns to how it was prior to its insertion but hopefully you will have retrained yourself to eat healthily. It's success as with any other WLS procedure is ultimatly down to you. I cannot give my perspective of a band as I have no experience of having one but if it helps I would have opted for the bypass without the balloon first but that was never going to be an option for me. I had to lose 7&1/2st first somehow beforehand and it was for this reason why the surgeon recommended the balloon. I did have the option not to have it in at all but felt I needed it even though I was successfully losing the weight on my own. Have I regretted having the balloon?... Absolutely not despite my issues with reflux it has done the job that needed to be done x

 

[bakedbean]

Hi treacle I've had mine in 4 weeks tomorrow!! It'snot plain sailing but I'm doing ok and it really does make u think about what your eating!!

 

[cb4]

Hi treacle I've had mine in 4 weeks tomorrow!! It'snot plain sailing but I'm doing ok and it really does make u think about what your eating!!

How are u doing? Have u lost much? Or have u weighed in yet?
I'm an obsessive weigher so I know what I weigh at least every second day I know! I shouldn't!!!!
Hope all is well xx

carol b

 

[cb4]

Oh dear ladies hope all is well soon xx

Carol, how terrible that someone can make you feel do bad , I'm sorry for that. Why do people feel like they need to do it?
Keep smiling.... You've done amazingly well.

You have all done so well!!!!!
Rebecca

I know
But I'm moving on!!!! I'm going to fight for the job and should be well able to report to u all next week. Fingers crossed for me

carol b

 

[cb4]

It's 5 weeks to my balloon and I'm starting to wish I'd chosen a band as I'm terrified that it won't work !!! I'm getting anxious in my sleep and am pretty agitated around food at the minute.

Any tips to ease the nerves or uneasy feelings ??

X

If u are doubting which u should have done, why not go back to the drawing board!!!! It's not too late to change ur mind!!!! But if u do it hastily, you may regret it!!!
Go back to meet with ur provider and talk it all through!
Get ur head right and go into ur weight loss journey fighting and ready to blast the fat off u!!!
You get ur head in the game and u will power the weight off. Positive thinking and hard work will get u there!
I'm with femfrankie!!! I don't regret the balloon either! My heads working much better with good/ bad decisions on food!
We can do it! Xx

carol b

 

[cb4]

I would definitely complain as there's no place for that behavior in the workplace.

Thanks
I'm bigger than her and stronger!!! I will go back fighting!!! I will do my best and prove how great I am!
Thanks for the support xx

carol b

 

[treacles1977]

The reasons for the balloon were ....

A good kick start to help me shed any weight as it is just not coming off... On any 'diet' or exercises plan
One year to get my head in gear about what I actually consume and how much
A non surgical procedure that would make me act upon my eating issues
The recovery time of a band was too long as I live abroad and am coming back to England for balloon
The thought of having something permanent inside me worried me !!

I really would have anything done to just shift a fraction of this body

Come on I should be well excited now !!!!
Suppose it's hitting me now !!

X