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Hi, I'm Kirsty, banded August 2014. My post op dairy
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kurstywursty
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Thanks girls
I think I feel under pressure in the honeymoon period...the first six months. My dietitian told me that is why we have to stick to 1000 a day for the first six months. To loss as much as possible, as quickly as possible as it gets harder after the honeymoon period
I'm wondering if I should just accept I need to slow down. Eat maybe 1200 or 1250 and factor in a treat at night. Because let's face it 1000 calories does not leave much for a treat if we are eating 3 meals a day
I think this is one of the reasons I end up pigging out on chocolate because I am so strict with myself on the good days!
I have learned some of my triggers. I just can't touch alcohol right now as it lowers my resolve and most of my really mad binges start with a glass of wine
My New Years resolution....ditch the scales.... I need one to prepare mentally
Though my weight gain over this past week has not just been daily fluctuation. Thursday to Thursday, I had gained 2lbs
I have put on genuine weight on a few occasions by binging and drinking wine
Need to get a grip. Settle down and stop this yo yo'ing. I had thought the band would put a stop to this and am totally gutted and terrified that it has not
I think I feel under pressure in the honeymoon period...the first six months. My dietitian told me that is why we have to stick to 1000 a day for the first six months. To loss as much as possible, as quickly as possible as it gets harder after the honeymoon period
I'm wondering if I should just accept I need to slow down. Eat maybe 1200 or 1250 and factor in a treat at night. Because let's face it 1000 calories does not leave much for a treat if we are eating 3 meals a day
I think this is one of the reasons I end up pigging out on chocolate because I am so strict with myself on the good days!
I have learned some of my triggers. I just can't touch alcohol right now as it lowers my resolve and most of my really mad binges start with a glass of wine
My New Years resolution....ditch the scales.... I need one to prepare mentally
Though my weight gain over this past week has not just been daily fluctuation. Thursday to Thursday, I had gained 2lbs
I have put on genuine weight on a few occasions by binging and drinking wine
Need to get a grip. Settle down and stop this yo yo'ing. I had thought the band would put a stop to this and am totally gutted and terrified that it has not
Crystalrainbow
Well-Known Member
I think its stupid to put yourself under pressure hunni its not helping....... This 6 month honeymoon period is stupid as far as i'm concerned !!! it could take you 2 years or more to find the right restriction......if ever, so how can that be the case............. of course we are more focused in the first few months but i don't get why..... the band is always going to be there, its not coming out again..... the aim of this game is to be at a healthy/happy weight.....for life....... life is far too short to be miserable over food. The emotional eating is always going to crop up from time to time but for me has gotten easier. Some days eating to a limit is just not do-able..... i try to aim for 1000-1200 this week its been average 1000 cals but normally nearer 1200 .......today its probably nearer 1600 LOL biscuits really do go down a treat after a hectic day LOL but honestly that can only slow my weight loss.................. it would take an EXTRA 3500 cals to gain 1lb..... so i don't stress it , tomorrow is a new day and my intake will be considerably less ......so today was a treat day....... in life we all have days, events, weddings, holidays, Christmas, but thats normal life we have to learn to roll with those days, accept the gains or the stay the same's and get back on it the following day....... ok so it may waylay getting to target but what the hell!!!!
Frankly what happens when we get to target anyway??? we've heard Bandedhun saying that its now harder because there are no goals to hit any more, so we've then got to fight just to stay static!!! The way i see it as long as i'm happy that's all that counts, who cares if i weigh a stone heavier than i should....... as long as i'm fit, able and healthy.
Its so varied between all of us bander's ............ but even if i stick to 1000 cals a day, that still allows me some treats
most of my meals are small and low cals on average B 20g porridge 100mls milk 10g honey = 144 cals L a child size wrap with chicken salad + mayo = 190 cals D normally meat and veg around 200-300 cals still allows me some room for treats. I try to pick wisely, i never feel hungry or denied.........of course today was a one off and that only happens once in a blue moon.... and if it does, i roll with it.
Kirsty one thing i've learned over this last year........that this weight is about our heads, get that in a good place the rest sorts itself out x x x x x xx Huge hugs sweetie x x x x
Frankly what happens when we get to target anyway??? we've heard Bandedhun saying that its now harder because there are no goals to hit any more, so we've then got to fight just to stay static!!! The way i see it as long as i'm happy that's all that counts, who cares if i weigh a stone heavier than i should....... as long as i'm fit, able and healthy.
Its so varied between all of us bander's ............ but even if i stick to 1000 cals a day, that still allows me some treats
most of my meals are small and low cals on average B 20g porridge 100mls milk 10g honey = 144 cals L a child size wrap with chicken salad + mayo = 190 cals D normally meat and veg around 200-300 cals still allows me some room for treats. I try to pick wisely, i never feel hungry or denied.........of course today was a one off and that only happens once in a blue moon.... and if it does, i roll with it. Kirsty one thing i've learned over this last year........that this weight is about our heads, get that in a good place the rest sorts itself out x x x x x xx Huge hugs sweetie x x x x
BandedHun
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Morning Kirsty,
I couldn't sleep.... Well haven't slept well for the past 2 weeks and having had a day off yesterday and ending up at millwall in the most coldest of conditions and seeing them thrashed 5-1 when I HATE and I say that again HATE football would give nightmares to anyone.... I digress.... I was reading thru and catching up on some of you guys and I read your having a bit of a ... Period .... On your hands. Like the negative thoughts and emotions that were the crux of your weight issues seeping back in and hurting you all over?
Well I wanted to just come and give you some love and attention whilst I'm sitting in the dark at home on what I forgot was a sofa ....
Please don't be disheartened. Let's go back to Dec 2013.... How much did you weigh? How much COULD you consume? how much weight dos you put in over the xmas new year period into 2014.... And how did you feel going into 2014? I know what happened to me. No photos of me at xmas. I wore rubbish clothes. I hated myself and I could eat- the world. So much has changed in this year. 2lb gain? So what. I know we want more but that comes at each Tony step of the fills/ defills process. Your Dietican and your surgeon are right in respects of how well you have done but the band is just a tool to aid hunger and quantity. All the failed ops are abuse of it in my opinion or just unlucky.... Like me you were not morbidly obese. You hadn't gotten your body in such a state (yet) that meant you were on deeds row through eating. So you CAN do this sweetie. It's bloody hard. Maintenance ? That's even harder- no chase anymore just acceptance. Sometimes it may be that our bodies just can't get us to where the media make us believe is possible or even realistic these days. It's crazy because I wanted to be 10st but knew at 11st2 ish im ok..... And it's gone beyond all that and more. But.... I keep being reminded. This is rare. My lifestyle and what's happened to me may be helping and stress but I really can't complain. In an average week and I did an experiment this week.... My weights been 10st 8 at 12 at night having gotten in from work and 10st 3/4 majority of morning weigh ins ( with TOTM) and now it's back at 10st 1lb today.... Now. I make that 7lb fluctuation in a week at different times. Granted im in a lucky position of being able to play about to see what feels right and the effect mentally seeing 10st 8 did to me. But you know what.... My clothes felt NO different! I hadn't put on weight at all . Volume in my gut .... Hadn't gone to loo for couple of days ( sorry of TMI ) .... Water.... Drinking more on some days than others.... Eating more or grazing days when I just don't want a meal.... How much sleep I had.... These all had effects on my weight. The better sleep I had the lighter I was in the morning. The earlier I cut off eating at night lead to better sleep and lighter weight too. These are ALL huge factors that play a massive role in weight loss. My point being if you are like me and serial weigh in person, and prone to emotional / YOYO issues then you have to look at the wider picture. Over the last month exactly. I've stayed the same. Perfect. Weeks went up and weeks went STS but on the grand scheme of things... I'm the same. So for you still on the loosing bench.... As long as it goes down ... Still... Your achieving what you want.
Remember - this is the hardest time of the year, if you STS this month... Or even gain a 2lb ... Well... That's progress in what possibly was your life before .
Another tip.... Try not to "diet" the band should be (yes) about healthy eating and great choices but also REAL life too much of the things we like = fat us .... Not enough of the stuff we like = miserable / binge cycle .... It's balance. A couple of biscuits here and there, cheese and a cracker.... Or two... It's normal and perfectly allowed in a balanced... Healthy .... Life ....
Chin up chick and I miss you all loads.
Xxxxxx happy xmas 2014 xxxxxxx
I couldn't sleep.... Well haven't slept well for the past 2 weeks and having had a day off yesterday and ending up at millwall in the most coldest of conditions and seeing them thrashed 5-1 when I HATE and I say that again HATE football would give nightmares to anyone.... I digress.... I was reading thru and catching up on some of you guys and I read your having a bit of a ... Period .... On your hands. Like the negative thoughts and emotions that were the crux of your weight issues seeping back in and hurting you all over?
Well I wanted to just come and give you some love and attention whilst I'm sitting in the dark at home on what I forgot was a sofa ....
Please don't be disheartened. Let's go back to Dec 2013.... How much did you weigh? How much COULD you consume? how much weight dos you put in over the xmas new year period into 2014.... And how did you feel going into 2014? I know what happened to me. No photos of me at xmas. I wore rubbish clothes. I hated myself and I could eat- the world. So much has changed in this year. 2lb gain? So what. I know we want more but that comes at each Tony step of the fills/ defills process. Your Dietican and your surgeon are right in respects of how well you have done but the band is just a tool to aid hunger and quantity. All the failed ops are abuse of it in my opinion or just unlucky.... Like me you were not morbidly obese. You hadn't gotten your body in such a state (yet) that meant you were on deeds row through eating. So you CAN do this sweetie. It's bloody hard. Maintenance ? That's even harder- no chase anymore just acceptance. Sometimes it may be that our bodies just can't get us to where the media make us believe is possible or even realistic these days. It's crazy because I wanted to be 10st but knew at 11st2 ish im ok..... And it's gone beyond all that and more. But.... I keep being reminded. This is rare. My lifestyle and what's happened to me may be helping and stress but I really can't complain. In an average week and I did an experiment this week.... My weights been 10st 8 at 12 at night having gotten in from work and 10st 3/4 majority of morning weigh ins ( with TOTM) and now it's back at 10st 1lb today.... Now. I make that 7lb fluctuation in a week at different times. Granted im in a lucky position of being able to play about to see what feels right and the effect mentally seeing 10st 8 did to me. But you know what.... My clothes felt NO different! I hadn't put on weight at all . Volume in my gut .... Hadn't gone to loo for couple of days ( sorry of TMI ) .... Water.... Drinking more on some days than others.... Eating more or grazing days when I just don't want a meal.... How much sleep I had.... These all had effects on my weight. The better sleep I had the lighter I was in the morning. The earlier I cut off eating at night lead to better sleep and lighter weight too. These are ALL huge factors that play a massive role in weight loss. My point being if you are like me and serial weigh in person, and prone to emotional / YOYO issues then you have to look at the wider picture. Over the last month exactly. I've stayed the same. Perfect. Weeks went up and weeks went STS but on the grand scheme of things... I'm the same. So for you still on the loosing bench.... As long as it goes down ... Still... Your achieving what you want.
Remember - this is the hardest time of the year, if you STS this month... Or even gain a 2lb ... Well... That's progress in what possibly was your life before .
Another tip.... Try not to "diet" the band should be (yes) about healthy eating and great choices but also REAL life too much of the things we like = fat us .... Not enough of the stuff we like = miserable / binge cycle .... It's balance. A couple of biscuits here and there, cheese and a cracker.... Or two... It's normal and perfectly allowed in a balanced... Healthy .... Life ....
Chin up chick and I miss you all loads.
Xxxxxx happy xmas 2014 xxxxxxx
kurstywursty
Active Member
Morning Kirsty, I couldn't sleep.... Well haven't slept well for the past 2 weeks and having had a day off yesterday and ending up at millwall in the most coldest of conditions and seeing them thrashed 5-1 when I HATE and I say that again HATE football would give nightmares to anyone.... I digress.... I was reading thru and catching up on some of you guys and I read your having a bit of a ... Period .... On your hands. Like the negative thoughts and emotions that were the crux of your weight issues seeping back in and hurting you all over? Well I wanted to just come and give you some love and attention whilst I'm sitting in the dark at home on what I forgot was a sofa .... Please don't be disheartened. Let's go back to Dec 2013.... How much did you weigh? How much COULD you consume? how much weight dos you put in over the xmas new year period into 2014.... And how did you feel going into 2014? I know what happened to me. No photos of me at xmas. I wore rubbish clothes. I hated myself and I could eat- the world. So much has changed in this year. 2lb gain? So what. I know we want more but that comes at each Tony step of the fills/ defills process. Your Dietican and your surgeon are right in respects of how well you have done but the band is just a tool to aid hunger and quantity. All the failed ops are abuse of it in my opinion or just unlucky.... Like me you were not morbidly obese. You hadn't gotten your body in such a state (yet) that meant you were on deeds row through eating. So you CAN do this sweetie. It's bloody hard. Maintenance ? That's even harder- no chase anymore just acceptance. Sometimes it may be that our bodies just can't get us to where the media make us believe is possible or even realistic these days. It's crazy because I wanted to be 10st but knew at 11st2 ish im ok..... And it's gone beyond all that and more. But.... I keep being reminded. This is rare. My lifestyle and what's happened to me may be helping and stress but I really can't complain. In an average week and I did an experiment this week.... My weights been 10st 8 at 12 at night having gotten in from work and 10st 3/4 majority of morning weigh ins ( with TOTM) and now it's back at 10st 1lb today.... Now. I make that 7lb fluctuation in a week at different times. Granted im in a lucky position of being able to play about to see what feels right and the effect mentally seeing 10st 8 did to me. But you know what.... My clothes felt NO different! I hadn't put on weight at all . Volume in my gut .... Hadn't gone to loo for couple of days ( sorry of TMI ) .... Water.... Drinking more on some days than others.... Eating more or grazing days when I just don't want a meal.... How much sleep I had.... These all had effects on my weight. The better sleep I had the lighter I was in the morning. The earlier I cut off eating at night lead to better sleep and lighter weight too. These are ALL huge factors that play a massive role in weight loss. My point being if you are like me and serial weigh in person, and prone to emotional / YOYO issues then you have to look at the wider picture. Over the last month exactly. I've stayed the same. Perfect. Weeks went up and weeks went STS but on the grand scheme of things... I'm the same. So for you still on the loosing bench.... As long as it goes down ... Still... Your achieving what you want. Remember - this is the hardest time of the year, if you STS this month... Or even gain a 2lb ... Well... That's progress in what possibly was your life before . Another tip.... Try not to "diet" the band should be (yes) about healthy eating and great choices but also REAL life too much of the things we like = fat us .... Not enough of the stuff we like = miserable / binge cycle .... It's balance. A couple of biscuits here and there, cheese and a cracker.... Or two... It's normal and perfectly allowed in a balanced... Healthy .... Life ....
I thank you a Banded. This makes sense. I could put on a stone over the month of December in the past. Then it was back to slimming world in January. . .i am having a serious re think about if all. I just can't go on stressing out over this. I can't treat it like a crash diet any longer. This is for life and I have to find a way to get my head round it. I am in a fantastic place compared to this time last year
BandedHun
New Member
Defo darling. That's where I think sometimes it goes so very dangerously wrong and we get so upset. They put you in 1000 kcal's but realistically when we get to the "dream" weight we go creeping up and up .... If you need to be 1200-1300 cals that's perfectly fine .... Your body will slowly come back down with it as it genuinely is a massive defiect .... ESP as you girls all are walking gym users etc. It can't be a diet, your doing so great! Get a picture out of dec 2013 and be bloody proud missy cod you look awesome. And so what if you spend dec having fun dressing up enjoying it. January can be crack down . Decent fill and crack on, but don't beat yourself up of enjoying and living life now you shouldn't be thinking about food.
I promise you this Kirsty it will fall into place. It does. Just don't give up on yourself. Every day is a battle for me. I miss that scoffing I could once do.... And I try it .... And my band goes .... No no no! ( to the tune of Amy winehouse!) my restriction is good. It gets there and you will know when it's there.... I was just lucky I got it at half way full ... So 10 ml band with (now) 5.6 ml in but at 5ml I had the right level of meal / food quantity I could and wanted to be able to eat. Roughly 3/4 2/3 of a small plate. Thus giving me room for treats by not having huge meals ..... You will see .... Give it time babes .... Hugs .... Hugs and more BIG hugs xxxxxxx
I gotta get ready for work but I'll pop back and see how you all are.
Is it your birthday too??? :-0
I promise you this Kirsty it will fall into place. It does. Just don't give up on yourself. Every day is a battle for me. I miss that scoffing I could once do.... And I try it .... And my band goes .... No no no! ( to the tune of Amy winehouse!) my restriction is good. It gets there and you will know when it's there.... I was just lucky I got it at half way full ... So 10 ml band with (now) 5.6 ml in but at 5ml I had the right level of meal / food quantity I could and wanted to be able to eat. Roughly 3/4 2/3 of a small plate. Thus giving me room for treats by not having huge meals ..... You will see .... Give it time babes .... Hugs .... Hugs and more BIG hugs xxxxxxx
I gotta get ready for work but I'll pop back and see how you all are.
Is it your birthday too??? :-0
sharon2014
Active Member
Kirsty your doing amazing! Banded is right, when we look back a year to where we have come from!!!
Hope you have a good day of celebrations! I hear it's snowing around your area just now?? X
Hope you have a good day of celebrations! I hear it's snowing around your area just now?? X
kurstywursty
Active Member
Snow not here just yet though forecast. It's been bitter.
No, no, no Banded.... That made me chuckle
I am off to get the girls up to the kennels. Well they are actually home boarded most of the time in the owners home and only go into the kennel if she is out and last thing at night
Then we are taking advantage of a dog empty and going for a drive as the sun is out. Then were off out for a curry at a gorgeous Indian restaurant with Lindsay's three kids (well adults) lol. We are surprising him with his trip on Monday. First class rail travel to Manchester, an overnight stay at a gorgeous hotel on canal street 'the velvet hotel' dead quirky. Meeting his cousin to go out for the evening. The. Tuesday morning the coronation street tour....he is a huge fan. Then the train home.
I am wearing an outfit that I wore when I took him out for his birthday the first year we dated. 11 years ago. Lol. It's a wee velvet cardi from principles (I used to love principles. Do they still exist) and a skirt from per una. That was when I lost all the weight on the most effective diet ever "the husband FKD off and left you one" 5 stone in three months!!!! I loved that outfit so much, I just could not part with it. I dug it out loft and dug some old favourites out a couple if months ago. All velvet gear. I'm a sucker for velvet!!! Two of the tops I dug out are getting way too big now and I have not even worn one of them either then or now bits bronze and very decorative and never had the occasion
So feeling good today. Just going to have some cold meat cucumber and celery as my first and last today before my chicken tikka tonight
No, no, no Banded.... That made me chuckle
I am off to get the girls up to the kennels. Well they are actually home boarded most of the time in the owners home and only go into the kennel if she is out and last thing at night
Then we are taking advantage of a dog empty and going for a drive as the sun is out. Then were off out for a curry at a gorgeous Indian restaurant with Lindsay's three kids (well adults) lol. We are surprising him with his trip on Monday. First class rail travel to Manchester, an overnight stay at a gorgeous hotel on canal street 'the velvet hotel' dead quirky. Meeting his cousin to go out for the evening. The. Tuesday morning the coronation street tour....he is a huge fan. Then the train home.
I am wearing an outfit that I wore when I took him out for his birthday the first year we dated. 11 years ago. Lol. It's a wee velvet cardi from principles (I used to love principles. Do they still exist) and a skirt from per una. That was when I lost all the weight on the most effective diet ever "the husband FKD off and left you one" 5 stone in three months!!!! I loved that outfit so much, I just could not part with it. I dug it out loft and dug some old favourites out a couple if months ago. All velvet gear. I'm a sucker for velvet!!! Two of the tops I dug out are getting way too big now and I have not even worn one of them either then or now bits bronze and very decorative and never had the occasion
So feeling good today. Just going to have some cold meat cucumber and celery as my first and last today before my chicken tikka tonight
sharon2014
Active Member
Have a lovely time for you and Lindsay this trip xxx
sharon2014
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Lol!!! Karina you always make me laugh!! X
kurstywursty
Active Member
ROFLMAO!!!!
You are seriously mad Karina
The down side to that diet is all your hair falls out...not a good look. My friends have told me I looked like a cancer patient. Not then you understand, lol but afterwards
kurstywursty
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kurstywursty
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Thanks Mrs Q. Had a lovely evening and felt I looked amazing.... Get me lol x
sharon2014
Active Member
Lovely Pics Kirsty!!! xx
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