my hospital experience

[VikiB]

positivity is what you need around you now and there is plenty around here! so ignore small minds and concentrate on getting better. how is your healing going? what sort of things are you eating now? xxx

I know you are so right about the positivity here I love the people here they always make me feel better no matter what my day has been like
My healing is going brilliant...The wounds are nearly healed I did have to put some savlon on them as they were turning a bit red and I don't want infection setting in. I am still in liquid stage so I have all kinds of soup always blitzed in my blender (which is brilliant for me as I have always loved soup) and yogurt. I also eat the del monte pureed fruit cups they are lovely if they've been chilled and its a small pot so it's small enough I don't have to waste any

 

[VikiB]

Sounds to me like your ex is being very supportive. Maybe there's still something there..... I'm glad you have someone that realizes that you are doing something good for yourself. Keep up the good work and the great attitude!

My ex is very supportive. He came to see me in the hospital 4 times even though he had just come from work and the hospital was miles out of the way. He brought me water and squash and splenda tablets so I could have a nice cup of tea. He calls me all the time to see if I'm ok or need anything. He called me the other day and asked how I was and said I was cold so he went out yesterday and bought me a 13.5 tog duvet so I will be warm during my recovery. I went to visit him today and he said was I hungry and I said no it was ok as I can only have soup and he opened his cabinette and said "which one do you want?" He had about 10 different kinds and he doesn't eat soup!!! He's very supportive and very nice to me.
I like him I just don't want another relationship right now. I have spent 30 years taking care of one man after another (4 total) and getting nothing in return but beat on, stolen from, used and cheated on. I don't want to take care of anyone but myself for a while. I want him as a friend but for now thats the best I can or want to give. I have told him this and he says he's ok with it as long as he has me in his life. I hope thats true.

 

[VikiB]

As long as your ok - thats the main thing! I just wonder that if his current 'bird' puts on the lbs how impressed she'll be with his support or committment!
You probably know already that your are like, MILES better without him - though through the initial stages it may not feel quite like it!
Keep the faith xxxx

His current bird is totally unaware that he has a wife she believes he is single and if she gets ill or anything that stops her from having sex with him he will dump her or cheat on her without hesitation!!!
I know I will be better without him and I am making steps to be just that. I am better than him in evry way I can think of and I deserve to be loved and treated with respect!! I don't demand respect I have earned it.

 

[VikiB]

Aww Vicki, I hope you realise how amazing you are! I just read through for the first time and feel exhausted. Lol. Your strength and perseverance are to be envied. Your life is just starting now.
Good luck sweetie! The world is yours!
Btw I live in Sidcup and go to Bexleyheath all the time. Maybe we can starbucks some time?

xx

I used to think I was amazing then my world crashed to the ground when I found out my "perfect life" was seriously not perfect and the sadness took everything I was until I just felt like a ghost of myself really (was a year and a half of my own personal hell). Now I am starting to get back who I am a huge chunk at a time and as I do my rose coloured glasses are fading and I'm seeing him for who he really is and have decided I really don't like him anymore. He has broken me down and I have allowed him to...no more!!
I'd love to meet in Bexleyheath. Theres a brilliant little italian bistro that serves a heavenly tomato and basil soup if that interests you at all. Call me if you want to go anytime ******** I have added you to my fb

 

[Newmelani]

Vicki, I'm so glad you have a great friend who supports you and cares about your recovery. You're doing amazing! In the short time I've "known" you, you have just blossomed. I can't wait to see your continued progress! I agree with not having a new relationship right now. I feel the same way. I need to go through all of this and be selfish and take care of me. I don't want to worry about some guy right now. I wish I was close enough to meet up with you! You can add me on facebook too if you want. Melani Hill Schorr

 

[Snow White]

I used to think I was amazing then my world crashed to the ground when I found out my "perfect life" was seriously not perfect and the sadness took everything I was until I just felt like a ghost of myself really (was a year and a half of my own personal hell). Now I am starting to get back who I am a huge chunk at a time and as I do my rose coloured glasses are fading and I'm seeing him for who he really is and have decided I really don't like him anymore. He has broken me down and I have allowed him to...no more!!
I'd love to meet in Bexleyheath. Theres a brilliant little italian bistro that serves a heavenly tomato and basil soup if that interests you at all. Call me if you want to go anytime 07725108144 I have added you to my fb

That would be fab!

 

[Kizzy70]

That would be fab!

I would also be interested in a 'meet up' and I'm only in Welling! x

 

[Snow White]

I would also be interested in a 'meet up' and I'm only in Welling! x

Excellent! It would be nice to see everyone in person. xx

 

[kitkatkate]

I'd be up for that too x x

 

[Snow White]

I'd be up for that too x x

Fabulous!

 

[VikiB]

wow a girls day out would be sweeeeet. Anytime you all are ready and have the time let me know. Would be fabulous to meet everyone You are all so important to me and my heart jumps with joy everytime I read my thread

 

[VikiB]

Vicki, I'm so glad you have a great friend who supports you and cares about your recovery. You're doing amazing! In the short time I've "known" you, you have just blossomed. I can't wait to see your continued progress! I agree with not having a new relationship right now. I feel the same way. I need to go through all of this and be selfish and take care of me. I don't want to worry about some guy right now. I wish I was close enough to meet up with you! You can add me on facebook too if you want. Melani Hill Schorr

I told my friend I thought it was time for me to become selfish and think of just me and she said it's not selfish at all it is beneficial to my mental and physical well being. Where do you live honey....I love road trips give me a reason lol

 

[VikiB]

LOL My friend just informed me this is MY year...it's the chinese year of the dragon. Cool maybe it is time for me to shine and start over

 

[Snow White]

My twins go back to pre school this week. So, will work out some days and see if anyone is available!

 

[honeykiss]

Count me in, a mini Bexley/Sidcup meet sounds fabulous!!

 

[Snow White]

Excellent Wendy! I would love to see you! I can pick you up!

 

[Newmelani]

I told my friend I thought it was time for me to become selfish and think of just me and she said it's not selfish at all it is beneficial to my mental and physical well being. Where do you live honey....I love road trips give me a reason lol

It would be much more than a road trip! It would be a plane trip! I live in Washington state, USA. I would love for you to visit!

 

[VikiB]

I have family in America so a plane trip and road trip oh yeaaaahhh!!! Will try to work up some money to get out sometime in next year or so if you're sure you'd like a visit

 

[VikiB]

Cool let me know girls. I'm available most of the time and can do either town I don't know many places in Sidcup but sure one of you does so let me know and I'll be there

 

[Newmelani]

I have family in America so a plane trip and road trip oh yeaaaahhh!!! Will try to work up some money to get out sometime in next year or so if you're sure you'd like a visit

That would be so much fun! And in a year, we could be skinny and go shopping!