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Yve's Photo Diary - 4 years on
- Thread starter Yvessa
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femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
Now there you go and look at that smile...fabulous outfit hun as is the person thats wearing it 
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Butterfly_lady
Well-Known Member
That looks fab on you, not a bump in sight xx
chrisa
New Member
I think after these operations our mindsets have changed and we do see things that we shouldn't or aren't really there its like we have the bigger viewing side of the magnifying glass. I can notice my own weight gain but feel powerless at the moment to change anything I am trying but failing and still plodding on. I do nitice though that when looking at others I notice things like that. I have never worn things that leave me looking like spare tyres on show. I have always covered all bases. My top is still an 18 but my thighs and hips are around a 20 and some probably linen may need a 22. I cannot get it any lower but don't like what I see. I am so proud of you all being able to get as far down as you all have which leaves me looking like a failure even though I am not. My mind fights between the 2 . I can still dress nice but I am aware I am the size that some people start their weight loss journeys at. I will not buy or wear anything that shows my tummy off I think of it as a smiley face. I know alot of todays fashion do not help us look our best so we have to become good at dressing ourselves and forget about the numbers and look at what stares back. WE can go by compliments and shop windows, the mirrors at home are the worst because we see a distorted view of our selves. Catching a glimpse of your self in a different mirror somewhere else makes all the difference as do photos. Well that's how I see things if that makes sense. I know we all are unique and its not the same for us all. xx
femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
Chrisa the thought of regaining weight petrifies me no end hun so big (((((hugs))))) & I admire your honesty and upfrontness. It shows the reality that WLS is not the magic answer and it takes some bloody hard work to keep at it and not everyone does get to their target for whatever reason. I dread getting to the point where my body says enough is enough now lets start maintaining ... im struggling with losing now so how am i going to maintain?? Hopefully thats a good bit away for me yet though.
What you say is so right in that its all about the dressing up. I find that this is more of a chore now but again its out of necessity in order to hide the multitude of lumps bumps and wobbles. Alot of what we see in our reflections is in our heads.. the reflection i saw in the mirror this morning isnt the same reflection i caught sight of in Asdas window this afternoon.. or do Asda install special slimming windows to give its customers the feel good factor hehe
What you say is so right in that its all about the dressing up. I find that this is more of a chore now but again its out of necessity in order to hide the multitude of lumps bumps and wobbles. Alot of what we see in our reflections is in our heads.. the reflection i saw in the mirror this morning isnt the same reflection i caught sight of in Asdas window this afternoon.. or do Asda install special slimming windows to give its customers the feel good factor hehe
Yvessa
Well-Known Member
I think a lot of it is in our heads and we see what we're looking for if that makes sense. Clothes sizing doesn't help - I bought two size 12s, one that fit beautifully, and one dress that doesn't go past my knees. Tip - don't buy small with Asos - I will need a 16 in their stuff I think!
I know I am very down about my loose skin and it does sour everything, but to be absolutely clear I haven't got a single regret. I recognise that all people who lose a large amount of weight will struggle with loose skin, and that's just normality, but that's not the same as saying I wish I hadn't lost it in the first place. I would do it all again, exactly the same way.
I know I am very down about my loose skin and it does sour everything, but to be absolutely clear I haven't got a single regret. I recognise that all people who lose a large amount of weight will struggle with loose skin, and that's just normality, but that's not the same as saying I wish I hadn't lost it in the first place. I would do it all again, exactly the same way.
lynseyscott
New Member
That red dress looks gorgeous yve! Add some black tights and black wedgie shoe boot things and you've got the perfect autumn date night outfit
ceecie74
New Member
Ladies PLEASE!!!!! For a moment, let's just contemplate over what we have ACHIEVED!!!!!
I'm reading a lot of negativity lately.....and I totally relate to it. I catch a glimpse of my puckered saggy thighs, varicose veins, mahoosive flappy bingo wings and just absolutely SHUDDER!!!
But it has to be fleeting. Those thoughts of disappointment, failure, regret, ugliness.....oh massive Frankie sigh....we really need to stop letting them get too much head space.
The fact of the matter is, WE ARE SAVING OUR OWN LIVES.
Stop looking at the numbers. If you look better in a 16 than a 12, get the 16!
Learn about our new shape. What clothes fit better, which shapes hide our wobbly bits, what clothes actually make us feel good????
Perfect example with your recent posts Yve....I totally get why you would feel down looking at the pic in the grey dress size 8. It doesn't fit or flatter you. The red dress however, well you look absolutely lovely!!!!
The same rules apply to when we were at our heaviest. Just because it fits, doesn't mean you should wear it. Yes we have loose skin.....but there are millions of women around the world who have never had WLS and have just as many inhibitions/insecurities about their bodies. We all have to make the best of what we've got.
Yep....hands up!! I'd LOVE to look like SHAKIRA!!!
Will I actually ever look like her???
NOOOOOOOOOO!! But I will look like a fit and active 40 something.
Come on ladies, you are all beautiful and an absolute inspiration, celebrate life, love and happiness.
Yes, CEECIE went hippy on it!! XXX
I'm reading a lot of negativity lately.....and I totally relate to it. I catch a glimpse of my puckered saggy thighs, varicose veins, mahoosive flappy bingo wings and just absolutely SHUDDER!!!
But it has to be fleeting. Those thoughts of disappointment, failure, regret, ugliness.....oh massive Frankie sigh....we really need to stop letting them get too much head space.
The fact of the matter is, WE ARE SAVING OUR OWN LIVES.
Stop looking at the numbers. If you look better in a 16 than a 12, get the 16!
Learn about our new shape. What clothes fit better, which shapes hide our wobbly bits, what clothes actually make us feel good????
Perfect example with your recent posts Yve....I totally get why you would feel down looking at the pic in the grey dress size 8. It doesn't fit or flatter you. The red dress however, well you look absolutely lovely!!!!
The same rules apply to when we were at our heaviest. Just because it fits, doesn't mean you should wear it. Yes we have loose skin.....but there are millions of women around the world who have never had WLS and have just as many inhibitions/insecurities about their bodies. We all have to make the best of what we've got.
Yep....hands up!! I'd LOVE to look like SHAKIRA!!!
Will I actually ever look like her???
NOOOOOOOOOO!! But I will look like a fit and active 40 something.
Come on ladies, you are all beautiful and an absolute inspiration, celebrate life, love and happiness.
Yes, CEECIE went hippy on it!!
XXX
A.Positive
New Member
I think we need to move to a huge WLS commune; that way we can let our bingo wings, flabby thighs and pancake boobs all hang out and not give a jot!
Group hug. xx
Group hug. xx
femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
Oooohhhhh lets do it Apositive!!
Lilacglittergirl
Fit and fantastic!
Ceecie has hit the nail on the head here ... I totally agree about choosing clothes that flatter ... Yve, that red dress is the best photos I have seen of you - you look absolutely amazing in it, and just to confirm there is not a hint of tummy rolls that I see, which I think is what it all about. In the tight fitting clothes you merely draw attention to it - and TBH there are plenty of 'normal' size 8 women who have not been through drastic weight loss who would not look good in that style.
Yes, I know I had issues with my boobs and booked myself for some reconstruction which I went ahead with despite the breast cancer scare a few weeks before surgery - I was lucky to have the resources to be able to act swiftly and for that I am very grateful and do not take it for granted. Yes, I also have issues with a saggy tum, butt cheeks that hang down between my legs like a pair of back testicles, bingo wings that flap like Dumbo's ears, back skin that hangs over the top of my bra, inner thighs that are wrinkled like a 90 year old ... but I just make the most of everything and ensure whatever I wear (and how I wear it!) disguises the negatives and enhances the positives ... I wore shapewear under the LBD I posted a pic of last night on my thread - I haven't worn foundation garments for ages but that dress needed it. All in all, I conclude the loose skin following drastic weight loss is really not THAT bad as it has been live-saving action we have taken, and we are so much better without all the blubber - and there is a solution if you pursue the plastics on the NHS by being honest about the devastating negative psychological damage it has done, to an otherwise brilliantly positive result. xxxxxx
Yes, I know I had issues with my boobs and booked myself for some reconstruction which I went ahead with despite the breast cancer scare a few weeks before surgery - I was lucky to have the resources to be able to act swiftly and for that I am very grateful and do not take it for granted. Yes, I also have issues with a saggy tum, butt cheeks that hang down between my legs like a pair of back testicles, bingo wings that flap like Dumbo's ears, back skin that hangs over the top of my bra, inner thighs that are wrinkled like a 90 year old ... but I just make the most of everything and ensure whatever I wear (and how I wear it!) disguises the negatives and enhances the positives ... I wore shapewear under the LBD I posted a pic of last night on my thread - I haven't worn foundation garments for ages but that dress needed it. All in all, I conclude the loose skin following drastic weight loss is really not THAT bad as it has been live-saving action we have taken, and we are so much better without all the blubber - and there is a solution if you pursue the plastics on the NHS by being honest about the devastating negative psychological damage it has done, to an otherwise brilliantly positive result. xxxxxx
Yvessa
Well-Known Member
I apologise for my posts having been so negative lately. A few sizes ago, I was over the moon with what I had achieved and believed I could cope with my loose skin. I wish I could just choose to see the positives and ignore the unsightly rolls of flesh. Unfortunately, I don't believe that I can.
Bally
Well-Known Member
No need to apologise, Yve. This forum is the place where we can talk about our success and our fears, our joys and our setbacks. I only wish it helps and that you can feel better soon.
BTW, as I posted some days ago, my excess skin sagged badly between June and October so I believe it's possible that we notice how bad it is only after a while. My weight is more or less 59 kgs. since March 2014 so I gather that our bodies still re-shape and shrink for a long long time after reaching goal weight.
You always say that our brain is slower than our body and time is needed to catch up with our body changes. I quote you.
BTW, as I posted some days ago, my excess skin sagged badly between June and October so I believe it's possible that we notice how bad it is only after a while. My weight is more or less 59 kgs. since March 2014 so I gather that our bodies still re-shape and shrink for a long long time after reaching goal weight.
You always say that our brain is slower than our body and time is needed to catch up with our body changes. I quote you.
femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
Don't get me wrong yvessa I do see my skin and the other flaws and I do despair and that's where my OH has been tremendous in keeping me feeling sexy and loved despite it. There is nothing I can do about the ugliness of it all, for now, BUT I refuse to let it make me feel as bad as I felt about myself at my heaviest weight not only does it drag you down but everyone else who is close to you. At the end of the day this operation was done for my health not to get the body beautiful & on that's it's been a roaring success and hell in the right clothes I'm not too bad at all so I can't really ask for more at this stage. Plastics is the holy grail unless you have the funds ... I don't and my kitchen for now has to come first cold hard fact for me to swallow but that's just life in a nutshell. Besides that it's kind of hard for me to distinguish what is still fat and what is loose skin. Bits of me that I thought of as solely lose skin have shrunk back in the recent weeks/months so I suppose I was wrong on that however shrinkage still has left even baggier skin so I suppose it's going to get uglier from here on in. Knowing that is scary and knowing that I have to get my BMI down to 25 (I'm Scotland remember) is a big challenge in order to get those plastics and even then there is no guarantee of it so I could be stuck with even saggier skin and with no hope so I have no alternative but to accept me and my battle scars now anything else is a bonus ... But I will not let it get me down ..life is for loving (even yourself) and living. I have wasted too much of my life doing the opposite and i am a little bitter on that but I have only myself to blame on that.
Stop beating yourself up hun ..you are gorgeous you are successful and a lovely lady hun ..every lump bump and wobbly bit xxx
Stop beating yourself up hun ..you are gorgeous you are successful and a lovely lady hun ..every lump bump and wobbly bit
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