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BANDERS UNITE ! Get to know each other chatter !

Do what you feel you can do Weeble. I count calories because I know if I don't, I am the rampaging cookie monster and I can't afford to be like that or I will regain more.
Don't postpone trying to change the daily plan for the better until you count calories though...have a look at Mazza's food tips and see what we all did this past week and see if you can get some ideas for things you might be able to try this week and just see how you feel on the daily basis.
If it helps you to just log daily what you eat and if you do any exercise then don't worry about the calories.
Be honest about what you are having so we can see how to help you best and also it does actually help to be careful with choices, knowing that we are keeping an eye on each other and all aiming for some good results on Saturday !
Plan a lovely treat for next Saturday like us and then try and do your best each day...if you feel you are having a weak moment, just remember you have the treat day to look forward to and us lot to talk to and help in any way with ideas to stop the munchies x
 
My problem at the moment is that I have lost track completely and lost hope. I have no restriction at all and at my weight I find it difficult to move much.

However, I am determined to have a more positive mental attitude and try harder - even if it's just to eat a little bit less every day.
 
I understand that feeling and I know a lot of us do! Wouldn't have needed surgery if we didn't feel that way I'm pretty sure.
Don't be scared to try OK? Look at my starting weight, and same height as you http://www.wlsurgery.com/before-during-after-photos/127032-me-before-about-half-way.html. I do understand what it's like to be that sort of weight and feel like there is no way on earth I can shift even a fraction. I know how hard it was to move for me as well and that it seems totally impossible.
I also took a whole year to get good restriction anyway, so I was feeling despondant and certain that I would fail the band like everything else.
Me and you have a lot in common so I feel I can promise you that whatever you feel you can and can't do at this moment in time, I promise that if you just are brave enough to try a little with us daily, that it will go and you will be able to do more and more.

The band won't do it automatically for us anyway love, I found that out the hard way and I was dismayed!!! I wanted to just go on auto pilot because I knew (or convinced myself anyway) that NO way could I lose 16 stone of extra weight unless all control was taken away from me.
I still lapse a lot...eg the whole of last year, but I also have managed to lose without ideal restriction and I believe you can too!!
You have to stop yourself from saying all that stuff about yourself.
We are volunteering right now to help you find your way again and get some weight off , are you ready for us to help you?

Log what you eat with us starting on Monday and have a think about what exercise you can manage for Monday.
Something like walking on the spot for 10 minutes after each meal?
Would that be do-able for you? Anything , no matter how small , is better than nothing.
I know you feel beaten right now, but I also know we can help you get out of the rut if you start doing a little bit and concentrating on one day at a time.
I'm here every day and I will help you tackle things as they come along and I know the other girls here will too x
You keep it do-able and change small things and you can start to feel like you are achieving results again and build from there.
Don't worry about the long term stuff for now because this week is about making a start for you and developing some helpful habits.
So maybe pick one meal you can have that will be healthy for Monday...wether it's a good breakfast or a low cal dinner...get the Monday done and then we look at Tuseday when it comes along.
Get on the phone to your team and pester them to get your band sorted because if it's faulty it needs to be dealt with immediately.
make yourself a thorn in their side till this is dealt with and in the meantime, stick with us x
It may be that you have trouble doing a full day at first, but all we have is time at the moment and when you do learn to get that self control back even without the restriction, then you WILL lose it and you WILL catch up x

I have a notebook at home and I write down what I eat and plan for danger times by jotting down what helps me avoid unwanted food etc.
If you see yourself ticking off something, no matter how small, it's a sense of being in control and being capable and that's what you need to get going with yourself.
So maybe your jobs for Monday could be something like..... "have pack of melba toasts with ham and light philadelphia for lunch" or "walk for 10 minutes on the spot listening to ipod" and write them on a pad , do em and tick them off. Job done. That is what I mean by goals and making an effort daily.

You do your bit , one day at a time like I said and we'll be here x
 
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Wow Neen, I know this probably sounds flippant, but I think you're my hero. You give amazing advice. Seriously, have you ever thought about writing a self help book?

Weeble, it would be lovely if you could join us, if the thought of a full day is too scary could you break it down into morn/aft/evening sections? For example if you are good on the morning promise yourself an options hot choc as a treat (only 40 cals). As for exercise, as Neen suggests walking on the spot for 10 mins is great. I do this while watching tv on an evening, I try to do from advert to advert which I think is around 11 mins.

I've just done a 50 mins workout and burnt 400 calories, my intake so far today is 625 and I am starting to get peckish now so will have a melba toast with philly to keep me till dinner. I'm feeling very positive about my day so far :)
 
Some very good advice from Neen. You know half the battle is about the thoughts going on in your head about food. We are always going to need food but its trying to think of it in some way other than as an emotional crutch/friend etc. It's fuel for the body and its about finding the right level to keep everything ticking over.

I have a huge amount to lose which is why I was due to have the bypass and some days I think I am never going to do it. Those thoughts get less and less as the weeks go by. It will take a few years but that doesn't matter because I will hopefully be getting healthier and achieving more than I have been able to for many years. I want to try and enjoy this journey - discover things about me, try new things etc.

There are going to be lots of ups and downs - but that is life.

I am so happy that people are joining in here and providing good tips, help, support and advice. We are all going to get there.

tranquil x
 
Does anyone know how many calories are in a slice of corned beef pie? I know it's not typical diet food, but it's not often hubby offers to cook and I thought I'd make the most of it. And I've done so well today that I've enough calories for a small slice :) x
 
tinned corn beef for 100 grams is 300 calories.....and fresh sliced is 70.88 calories......but plz be aware there is alot of fat in corn beef hun xxx
 
Thanks Julie, it was lovely however it's definitely a slider for me, so i won't be having it again xx to

Oh I forgot to say, Morrisons had the slimfast powder £2.70 for 440g carton, I don't know if that was a good price but I thought it was worth a couple of quid to give it a try so have bought some, just waiting for the ice to freeze. I also bought a ready made carton of lemon meringue flavour to try xx
 
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Its great to see what terrific support we have on here for all the banders (that means most of us); and the 1st week of keeping on track with your records and results really shows an upsurge in positive thinking and looking forward to the future.

Neen - as usual are a true inspiration. Your own journey has been especially tough with your personal life, and a year where you felt unmotivated. But WOW, you are really setting the standard now. I really wish you every success and I know you will rock your band!

Tranquil, Sarah, Helen and everyone else (sorry, I lose track of all the names on this site; but DO include you all) Just a huge WELL DONE on taking the first steps and thinking so positively for the coming months. xxxxx

Weeble - Welcome. Neen and the others talk a lot of sense, just little steps can make such a difference, you got nothing to lose - except some weight.

A good site for finding the calorific values of different types of foods is myfitnesspal.com, no joining fee, nothing to pay and great for recording daily foods and finding out how much you need or have left each day.

Not too good at joining in lately. But still follow the thread with interest.

Wishing you all the best xxxxx





Love Kat x
 
Kat love - are you ok?

If you are struggling, sometimes it helps to just post what is on your mind. Me, I am ramble on and on - but it is better than just keeping it inside. It helps once its off loaded:D. Neen and Dotty really cheered me up last week when I was getting stressed about my boss. I know she is going to really pee me off in the two days before she goes on holiday next week - but instead of my blood pressure going up, I shall think of a cross dressing Ming the Merciless complete with Sue Ellen shoulder pads - perfect:D.

Everyone is here to help if we can.

tranquil x
 
Thanks Jac and Tranquil xx


I`ve not been too well in recent weeks; working and back pain don`t always go well together, on my feet a lot at work which does`nt help. Very worried about taking any more time off work sick; can`t afford to lose my job. Managers are power crazy and driving me to distraction. Just been feeling very down about it and not able to relax or sleep properly, which is not helping.

Thanks for your concern x



Love Kat x
 
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Thanks Jac and Tranquil xx


I`ve not been too well in recent weeks; working and back pain don`t always go well together, on my feet a lot at work which does`nt help. Very worried about taking any more time off work sick; can`t afford to lose my job. Managers are power crazy and driving me to distraction. Just been feeling very down about it and not able to relax or sleep properly, which is not helping.

Thanks for your concern x



Love Kat x
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Oh Kat - big hugs:hug99:. Nothing worse when you are feeling unwell and under pressure to keep working. If I am honest I could have done with another month off work and I am damn lucky I get full pay for 6 months. But with the cuts and threats of redundancy I had to bite the bullet and go back.

Are there any strategies we can help you with for coping with your Managers - is there a bullying issue here? There are so many toxic managers out there and they seem to get worse when times are hard like now. Your health is important - both physical and emotional.

Keep your chin up.

tranquil x
 
Kat I hope you're feeling better soon, it's horrible when you don't enjoy your work.

TB I hope Ming Ellen isn't to hard on you this week.

I hope everyone else is ok. I'm on a bit of a downer today, I had a good friend pass away suddenly last year and I dreamt about her last night, which has brought my grief back to the surface. On top of that I'm feeling very insecure at the moment, I've tried to tell hubby how I feel but can't seem to get the words out. I've wrote this down not because I want sympathy but as I'm hoping that it might help to get it out of my system.

I'm at the hospital on Thursday for my next fill so I'm going to try and get as much weight off between now and then. Hubby and Charlie fancied some icecream so I've sent them to Mcdonalds so I won't be tempted. I was amazed at my willpower!!

Breakfast: Coffee with milk 25
Right start with yoghurt 200

Sachet vanilla latte 80

Cordial

Lunch: 1 egg scrambled, 2 bacon (fat cut off) 4 button mushrooms 250

Cordial

Yoghurt and fruit 170

Latte 80 = 805

Dinner: Fajita and salad 200

Hot choc with a splash of milk 65

Total for today =1070 cals
Exercise 20 mins power wobble with the dog and 30 mins that you don't want to know about ;) (I must add that it wasn't with the dog!!)
 
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Hugs Sarah
Dreams like that are always emotive, yet longed for at the same time. I love dreaming of my dad, makes him feel closer to me again.
Well done on the willpower btw xxx
 
Thanks Rache, I love icecream so it was a toughie, but I stayed the same this week so must try harder. I agree about the dreams making us feel closer to them, in the dream she looked so well and happy that I do wonder if they visit us to let us know that they're ok. xx
 
You'll be grand this week luv with your fill coming.

Well I'm being leisurely productive today. Should be out in the beautiful sunshine but really need to get the paperwork done.

I'm looking forward to this week. I don't know why, but feeling good about it :) hopefully this is a good sign.

Have an amazing week everyone xxx
 
Sorry I haven't been around much today, always busy with the kids on weekends , plus we had to get a new router as ours failed and then car broke down :S
Anyhoo... I am looking forward to getting back on my plan tomorrow and just take it a day at a time and see if I can make the day in hand as useful and helpful to my weight loss (and yours) as I can x
 
Oh heck Neen did you get the car fixed?

Rache did you get much paperwork done? I was going to do loads of stuff but didn't bother, I'm sat looking forward to Being Human starting soon :)
 
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