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Neen said:
Hiya all xxx

Rache and Sarah, you know what? I am having my treat days tomorrow and Sunday. It's why I have been strict all week, and thanks to writing things down this week, I have kept on track. If I don't lose weight fast enough or stop losing, I think I will go for one day off instead and do much more exercise.
The thing is, a couple days of not being a saint aren't going to ruin anything long term..my problem before now has always been that one or two days turn into 3 or 5 because I get fed up of doing the diet/plan and want results fast.
What always happens is that I regain because I don't allow myself the chance to succeed and prove I can do it.
Having the one day or weekend to enjoy a fave meal and not write everything down is really good for morale and gives me something to look forward to during the week when I am much more careful about what I have and do.
Thank you so much for this week because without you all to share this experience with, I would have thrown in the towel at day 2!!!
What helped me most this week was the nightly slimfast and chewing gum at food prep time.
Next week I want to work on much more effort with my exercise and not being tempted to go off the plan that worked with food this week.
Next weekend we are having a birthday party for my youngest on the Saturday, so I have the party and the Sunday to get the crazy food out of my system and then right back on the plan for the weekdays.
I need to learn consistency and not give up something that works well because I'm bored of it.
I would love to get under 14 stone this year as my main goal.
What about you ? I'd like to double the loss I have achieved so far. Make it 8 stone lost :)
What are you hoping for this year realistically? Better control over my emotional and habitual eating.
What do you need help with? Staying focused, I 'forget' why I'm doing this so easily. Sometimes genuinely and sometimes deliberately "because I want it"......so silly, but I have to admit to it.
What did you do this week that was successful and helpful that you will take forward to the next? Made more of an effort. I am my own worst enemy. I had two genuinely good days food wise this week, the others I could have worked harder at. I am going to get back on my bike this week.
xxxxxx
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Thank you once again Neen for the re-focus, you really have helped xxx
 
Good on you Rache. We can pool our resources can't we?

What about you ? I'd like to double the loss I have achieved so far. Make it 8 stone lost :)

OK , so is it easier to tackle the one stone at a time?
That has helped me a lot and is not as discouraging

What are you hoping for this year realistically? Better control over my emotional and habitual eating.


Me too!! Do you know what? I actually have the tesco order online and I find I add all sorts of rubbish during the week to the online basket...anything that pops into my head no matter how decadent. I just add it to the list and say I will have it on the weekend. I have my shop come wednesdays...usually what happens is I go through the whole thing on Tues and delete all the crazy stuff ,maybe leave one thing in for my treat day and it has really been a help. gets the urge to splurge out at the bad moment and that then passes 9 times out of 10 because I have added the cake or whatever I think I am going to treat myself to, to the list...then when the crappy mood has gone and i'm more on an even keel..it comes back off the list and stays safely on the shelf in the supermarket.

What do you need help with? Staying focused, I 'forget' why I'm doing this so easily. Sometimes genuinely and sometimes deliberately "because I want it"......so silly, but I have to admit to it.

Following on from what I wrote before, OK...have it later..have it for treat day! Write it down/pre-order it/ stick it in the treat cupboard with a post it note on it saying "For my treat on Saturday" Then get back to work til Saturday and then treat day can be enjoyed without guilt or remorse.


What did you do this week that was successful and helpful that you will take forward to the next? Made more of an effort. I am my own worst enemy. I had two genuinely good days food wise this week, the others I could have worked harder at. I am going to get back on my bike this week.

One day at a time. Concentrate on today every day. Much much easier to make a succesful day than worrying about a whole week.
Get the day in hand done and then start over fresh every day that way.
It gets the pressure off, it makes you feel you are doing better and you have many more good days than bad if you don't carry over the worry of a crap day to the next and the next.
 
Hello Banders x
Well its been a while (oops sorry)
my surgiversary was the 11th of january nope cant believe its been a year I am over 5 stone down from my heaviest weight, still got a bit to go (well 3 stone to be honest) but its coming off.
I am going to catch up with you all now (its gonna take a while)
hope your all ok and hello to all you new ones x

Helen
x
 
Morning all, Helen you sound like you're doing amazing, 5 stone off is fabulous.

Neen, as I'm still at the start of this journey regarding fills I don't really have a goal, I'm just aiming for the next 1/2 stone loss (currently I want to be in the 15 st bracket).

I go to uni in Sept to do my nursing degree (you have no idea how scared I am!!) and the degree is 50% theory and 50% practical, which will be mainly working shifts at the hospitals. If I'm being completely honest the thought of the shift work was one of the main things that encouraged me to have have surgery, carrying this extra weight makes my feet agony if I stand for long periods, and I know I'll be on them all day. Also, you get fitted for your uniform in front of everyone, at 37 I'm going to be one of the oldest there, with everything heading south, I really don't want to be the biggest as well.

Cor I've prattled, I only came on to log that I'd had a coffee!! ;)

Anyway, my aims for the week: more exercise, even just marching on the spot in front of the tv, I want to exercise at least 5 days this week. Drink more water, I don't think I had enough last week and that I was confusing thirst with hunger. And I'm going to attempt to calorie count, I'm clueless when it comes to calories so may ask you ladies lots of questions. Eat slower. Spend more time with hubby, in past therapy sessions I identified that I feel the need to put something in my mouth (it's an odd feeling, I just need to chew and have a full mouth) when what I really need is a cuddle and some love sent my way. Oh heck, that's some list!

Breakfast: Coffee 25 calories (milk)
1hr later: right start and yoghurt 200 cl

Lunch: (on the go, so popped into morrisons)
Chinese Chicken kebab 230 cal
1 small onion bhaji 85

Drinks: Nas cordial
sachet latte 85

total so far = 625

1 pint nas cordial

50 mins rosemary connelly dvd (boy do I ache!) burnt 400 cals :)

Options hot choc with a splash of milk 70

Mushy pies and corned beef pie, I reckon it was 500 cals

Nas cordial

=1195
 
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Morning all. My pouch is very sore this morning. Just had my Actimel, my meds and a coffee. Trying to sip as much water as I can today. Still swollen up. The good news is my BP seems to be holding. If I can get my kidneys to get going and get rid of this water retention issue I will be doing cartwheels:D.

I try to avoid targets/goals as it just put too much pressure on. I am trying to keep as mobile as possible and to increase what little exercise I do. This coming week will be a big test in that I will be doing a full week in the office so it will be about coping with mornings and being able to motivate my self to do a little exercise when I get home. I am going to plan my evening meals for the week utilising the slow cooker as Mr TB is still not well.

Hope everyone has a good weekend;).

tranquil x
 
Sarah Metcalf said:
I go to uni in Sept to do my nursing degree (you have no idea how scared I am!!) and the degree is 50% theory and 50% practical, which will be mainly working shifts at the hospitals. If I'm being completely honest the thought of the shift work was one of the main things that encouraged me to have have surgery, carrying this extra weight makes my feet agony if I stand for long periods, and I know I'll be on them all day. Also, you get fitted for your uniform in front of everyone, at 37 I'm going to be one of the oldest there, with everything heading south, I really don't want to be the biggest as well.

Anyway, my aims for the week: more exercise, even just marching on the spot in front of the tv, I want to exercise at least 5 days this week. Drink more water, I don't think I had enough last week and that I was confusing thirst with hunger. And I'm going to attempt to calorie count, I'm clueless when it comes to calories so may ask you ladies lots of questions. Eat slower. Spend more time with hubby, in past therapy sessions I identified that I feel the need to put something in my mouth (it's an odd feeling, I just need to chew and have a full mouth) when what I really need is a cuddle and some love sent my way. Oh heck, that's some list!
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Hi Sarah

Wow going into nursing, returning to study and the public fitting what a year you have coming up!! I'm sure you will be amazing, and you seem very focussed so will do really well with you losses up to the dreaded fitting date.

Drinking instead of eating is so good. I find on the days I get lots of fluid in I am much less hungry.
They say it's good for the brain too so an extra reason to get glugging :)

TB-Sounds like your return to work will be stressful and finding a new routine will be as much of a challenge as anything.
You will get there sweetie.
We are all sending karma fuelled thoughts to your boss :whistle:

Well I lost 2lb of my regain!!
Looking forward to hearing of all your success' too.

I am having me a lazy weekend.....phew..... off to the pics this evening :)

Have a lovely weekend evereyone xxxx
 
Morning all and happy Saturday everyone! Had my works party last night for a colleague's retirement and managed a couple of glasses of rose wine without any problems - first alcohol this year!! Also the food was a cold meat buffet with some lovely salmon so I had some of this with a couple of small new potatoes and some salad. Did a little bit of a dancing which is the sum total of my exercise for this week! However, my weigh in this morning has revealed a loss this week of ..... 4 pounds! I'm delighted with this as the last few weeks I've struggled with single pounds. I definitely think that counting my calories and recording them on here has kept me on the straight and narrow this week so thank you to all my fellow banders for your help, especially Neen for suggesting this in the first place. Good luck everyone and fingers crossed for a good week again next week! x
 
mellyb28 said:
Morning all and happy Saturday everyone! Had my works party last night for a colleague's retirement and managed a couple of glasses of rose wine without any problems - first alcohol this year!! Also the food was a cold meat buffet with some lovely salmon so I had some of this with a couple of small new potatoes and some salad. Did a little bit of a dancing which is the sum total of my exercise for this week! However, my weigh in this morning has revealed a loss this week of ..... 4 pounds! I'm delighted with this as the last few weeks I've struggled with single pounds. I definitely think that counting my calories and recording them on here has kept me on the straight and narrow this week so thank you to all my fellow banders for your help, especially Neen for suggesting this in the first place. Good luck everyone and fingers crossed for a good week again next week! x
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That's fantastic Mel well done you xxxx
 
Morning all

Can I join you here. I am a failed bandster. I had mine fitted last June and am heavier now than I was then. There is a fault in my band and they can't get any fluid into it. I have an appointment with the consultant next week to try and find out what's wrong.

Ever since I found out I have been on a chocolate suicide march and have put on a stone. If only it were as easy to get off as it is to put on.

Anyway - my goal for the short term is to find out what's wrong with my band and to try and get a better control of my emotional eating.
 
Welcome back Helen xxxx You're doing fab love ! Join in with us for next week if you want :D
Sarah, sounds like you have some great things ahead and it's brilliant that you have indentified some of the reasons behind your unwanted food eating xxx
TB , just making one day at a time as good as it can be is a nice gentle goal and I hope do-able for you. We're with you hun so whatever you feel like is good with us x

Well done for the losses girls! We did pretty good for a first week!
I lost 3lbs of my regain this week with PMT and period starting yesterday so I am amazed!
Also want to step up the exercise this week and try and just plug away with the food as it evidently did the trick for me this week.
Thank you all for getting into the spirit of it and getting each other to be a bit more mindful and enthusiastic about working our bands!
I hope we can repeat the process next week too and just keep on helping each other to get where we all want to be this year x
Thanks again everyone!!!
Today is treat day (well weekend actually) so although I have decided to be a bit more relaxed regarding food, I don't want to go too much the other way either. I am going to try and avoid too many sliders and listen to bandy!
And straight back on plan Monday xxx
 
QUOTE=weeble;2337872]Morning all

Can I join you here. I am a failed bandster. I had mine fitted last June and am heavier now than I was then. There is a fault in my band and they can't get any fluid into it. I have an appointment with the consultant next week to try and find out what's wrong.

Ever since I found out I have been on a chocolate suicide march and have put on a stone. If only it were as easy to get off as it is to put on.

Anyway - my goal for the short term is to find out what's wrong with my band and to try and get a better control of my emotional eating.[/QUOTE]


Absolutely!!! Definately join us hun!!! Some of us doing the daily log of food and exercise do not have great restriction anyway so do whatever you like really!
If it would help to keep a control on your intake , why not count calories with me so that we can get you moving in the right direction again. We can work out a reasonable limit and think of what exercise you can do daily and if we can tackle one day at a time, I feel sure we can get it going for you as well, in spite of the problems that you have at the moment.
A lot of us are having to get out of emotional eating habits as well and we can help you resolve that too, trial and error we just will pool our resources and make it a great year for banders xxxxxxx
Welcome aboard!
 
Thank you Rache and well done on your loss too xx
Excellent loss Neen, well done to you too xx
Weeble - please join us hun, the more the merrier xx
Everyone else - keep it going and have a lovely weekend xx
 
Well done Neen and Mel - great losses. This has been great to just act as a reminder and be mindful of what you are taking in and seems to be working. Great idea Neen. Keep going everyone.

tranquil x
 
Thanks TB, this has made a huge difference to me so far after only one week. Just knowing that you are all writing what you're having and putting in the efforts daily has made me a lot more eager to put the effort in as well and just really keep going.
I want to see all of us lose weight and show that the band is a really excellent tool and we can have faith that we can lose all our excess weight just as well as bypassers OK?
I still have about 7 stone left to go so it almost feels like I am at the beginning again in a way.
I think if we keep on trying and pick up after any slips, then we are definately going to look back at the end of this year and be a lot closer to all our goals..some of us will be maintaining too!

I think a really useful thing to remember for those of us who have emotional eating problems stretching years back is :
Drop the all or nothing attitude.
We just can't do this angelic virtuous 100% of the time diet, where we are rigid to the rules and put ourselves through a miserable time of deprivation. NOBODY can sustain that for long.
And when we do "have a bad day" as we often mention here, it is not the end of everything that has gone before. It's a blip! The trouble comes when we start berating ourselves for being useless and not strong enough to avoid temptation! Because then as most of us know, the blip day turns into the blip week, month , year (putting my hand up now) and yeah that is chipping away at our self esteem.
We end up not trying anymore because we are sooooo sure we are going to fail.

From now on, my blips are not going to throw me off the wagon any more (I will try and remember that I promised this!!!)
Have your pizza or cake or whatever it is....giving permission to have it and enjoy it properly rather than scoffing it down guiltily at lightspeed...takes away the power of it, takes away the "specialness" and "last chance to have it" panic eating.
You know, we may find that when we are actually allowing ourselves to enjoy this craved for food , guilt free, knowing that it will not ruin anything or grind our efforts to a halt.....may mean that whilst we're eating this mana from heaven, we actually notice when we have had enough and put it down...or leave a bit...or even realise that it's not that great after all and we don't need it.

So I will be having my pizza later because it's the weekend and I'm having it with my family. I will not be having a ginormous 12" all to myself any more ever in my life...but yeah I might have a couple nice big bits...take my time over them guilt free and that will be that.
And on Monday I will be ready and happy to start my usual diet foods because I made it through this week without starving and withering away and it was bloody brilliant to see the weight change for once!!!

Let's stop jumping at the first chance to beat ourselves up and keep picking ourselves up, dusting off after a wobbly moment, and get some more wodge off!!!
When the sun was shining briefly this week, I remembered how it felt to still be in big baggy clothes in the hot weather..wishing I had put more effort in back when I had time before summer last year.
I hope that we don't have any regrets when we are on our hols or out with our loved ones in the sunshine this year! xxxxxx
 
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Neen I think you have a career in motivational speaking, you're so good at it.

Wow some fabulous losses ladies, this is great reading, as is how busy this page is.

Welcome Weeble, it's great to have another on board.

I'm going to do a fitness dvd in a mo, I've got heartburn today, I think it's yesterdays intake getting it's revenge on me. xx
 
Not the revenge pizza!!!! Don't look at it that way!!
As long as you remember from now on Sarah, if you are going to have something a bit treaty...take your time and enjoy it thoroughly...none of the guilty stuff OK?
We don't need to feel guilty from now on because we have a plan and the majority of the time, we are being mindful of what we have, choosing good stuff and making a bit of effort to exercise aren't we?
I hope you enjoy your exercise and your heartburn eases a bit x Take it steady hun!
I am genuinely excited that a bunch of us might suddenly start shifting serious weight...and just by being consistent and tackling the problems together.
I am happy to help in any way I can because I am going to be chipping away at my remaining wodge for a good while yet! And then there's maintenance later on...so I'm not going anywhere anytime soon !!
I'm so excited that we had losses this week..looking forward to another good one but whatever happens, no more giving up and being afraid of failing.
 
Thank you for the kind welcome. I'll do my best. I'm not quite there yet but hopefully will get to counting calories soon.
 
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