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BANDERS UNITE ! Get to know each other chatter !

I'm never far from this place!!! Total addict hehe!
Well done for trying a new exercise too!
 
CC- yeah I kept trying last night in vain...*LOL* I haven't been on long and even I was having withdrawals...*LOL*
Maybe you are gain some muscle and still losing fat....muscle weighs more...so it could look at though you aren't losing....but in fact you are losing fat....and that is what matters.;)

Neen, yes haha yeah it seems as though you and I are of a kindred spirit type...so I am glad I found ya.:D Stepfather's (at least in my case) cause so much damn...but they aren't worth the efforts of wasting our energy over either.

Well I am only down 8 oz yesterday...but at least it is something. I figure this time next week if not sooner I will reach the goal they wanted me to reach. And I am officially half way through my Pre-pre-op diet...I doubt I will want to drink milk again any time soon...but am looking forward to a nice salad....;)
 
Hiya girls x
Ugh kids are being pretty turbulent at the moment in school.
They have been taking turns in being horrendous since the start of term so I am trying really hard to not give in to the old munch away the blues thing!
I have been sick after evening meals almost every day this week because of being uptight as a result of trouble from school...ugh!!! Anyway, it's kind of a given to have some sort of hassle on a weekly (often daily) basis!!

I have had my nose in Warcraft today hehe so smushing monsters has been fairly theraputic
 
Neen said:
Hiya girls x
Ugh kids are being pretty turbulent at the moment in school.
They have been taking turns in being horrendous since the start of term so I am trying really hard to not give in to the old munch away the blues thing!
I have been sick after evening meals almost every day this week because of being uptight as a result of trouble from school...ugh!!! Anyway, it's kind of a given to have some sort of hassle on a weekly (often daily) basis!!

I have had my nose in Warcraft today hehe so smushing monsters has been fairly theraputic
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How easy it is to give into the solace a steamy hot bowl or plate of your favourite food would claim to give you. You've done really well by acknowledging that you see what you could have done ... so mucho kudos, but even more kudos for doing something about it ... aversion therapy. :clap:

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Thanks love, The way I am coping mainly at the moment, is having Saturday as my treat day.
I have some goodies set aside for then and I keep looking at them and thinking....oooh I'm gonna have that on Saturday!!!! And it helps me bide my time to a degree.

What usually happens on the weekend , is that I feel better anyway and only have a fraction of the treat food I tell myself I want during the week.

I lost some regain last week and it's unusual for me to lose every week even when I am being saintly so I just don't know how things are going to pan out.
Especially as I have been really worried about my eldest at the moment. Just have to hope for a stay the same week when it gets stressy I think, then any loss is a huge bonus !
 
Neen said:
Thanks love, The way I am coping mainly at the moment, is having Saturday as my treat day.
I have some goodies set aside for then and I keep looking at them and thinking....oooh I'm gonna have that on Saturday!!!! And it helps me bide my time to a degree.

What usually happens on the weekend , is that I feel better anyway and only have a fraction of the treat food I tell myself I want during the week.

I lost some regain last week and it's unusual for me to lose every week even when I am being saintly so I just don't know how things are going to pan out.
Especially as I have been really worried about my eldest at the moment. Just have to hope for a stay the same week when it gets stressy I think, then any loss is a huge bonus !
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Hey hun, Sorry to hear things aren't going to well on the kiddy front. I know sometimes things just get on top of us...but you know, when you children have a condition...something they themselves can' control, you just have to roll with it. As long as the they are trying their best...or trying to cope with what can be hard for them....then that is all you can ask.

You're a strong woman...and you know like everyone...things never stay "bad" for long. Try and write down your feelings...and see if you can just release that way....write down what you think you can do to help the situation....if there is nothing you can really do to change it....then just learn to accept that...and accept there may be limitation to situation...and then delete the file.....maybe this will help you to see the black/white/and greys of the situation. Maybe just take sometime after the kids are in bed, to go for a walk and just think about the positive things you have in your life...your paths....and the work you've done for yourself and your family. Maybe that will help.

The Naughty day thing is a good idea if that works for you...to not really eat things you know are worth the amount of effort and energy you will have to use to work it back off. If you end up eating less of your "treats" then that is a great thing. But everyone needs a break sometime....

I am sure you will work it out...and just know if you need to talk we are all here to listen and help as much as we can....:hug99::hug99::hug99::hug99::hug99:
 
it must just be me....I talk and I just scare everyone off...I must admit, if it wasn't for the fact that I booked marked this url I would have long since lost this thread.
 
CC-- I thought I might be stinking up the place...*LOL* man this not eat anything sucks....I so need to do a load more testing on my gluten free range of stuff and I can't as i can't test anything to check for moisture....or taste , texture etc....but on the good side...I am half way there....actually about 12 and a half more days and i am free to consume a some morsels of food. I don't miss it...it is just I can't do my work and so things are on hold....BUM!!!!
 
Hey chick ... am I missing something here? Are you on some sort of diet? How come your pre-op diet is so long?? OMG 3 months of pre-op diet? What a killer!

I was naughty on my preop diet, I couldn't follow it I was hungry all the while and I'm lactose intolerant (I can't begin to tell you how my body reacted to drinking milk constantly!). In the end I was, courtesy of my dietician on very tiny amounts of food and vegetables.
 
Hi lovely ladies!
Right FFBB...honestly don't fret...the amount of times I have written out a heartfelt long considered reply to people on the forum and had nothing back but a "lone tumbleweed blowing across the dessert"....or erm...nothing back at all... (specially on my attitude thread)
I definately appreciate your being here and I know all of us who are contributing to this thread will be helping each other for the duration!

A lot of people come and go as well on the forum...banders definately have a high disappearance rate, but I definately am staying to keep this thread going because it has really helped me already.

Yeah, I think we are very sensitive people and you mustn't take it personally if you don't get responses from lots of people.
Banders are in the minority and a lot of people on the forum don't know how to find new posts etc.

I know what you mean as I have felt like that a lot of times, specially when I am doing everything I can to fit in..I wouldn't go worrying xxxx
Believe me, this is downright hectic compared to what it has been like in the past.

Even if there are only a teenie handful of us...we can keep each other company!

Wow is coool! Everything is shaking up now because the new expansion is due out in December.
I have 18 characters on two realms at the moment...if you ever want to go back and try it I can give you the name of my main realm and take you round and help you level if you want!
Same thing with "Second life" !

I had a right wobbly day yesterday, my eldest stayed home from school with a cold and brrrrrrrrr..... good grief I was c.c.cold yesterday....geeeez! I just could not get on the treadmill....so I daresay I won't lose this week because it seems I can't lose unless In am like an angel every day.

Very difficult for a munch monster like me!
 
Hiya,

I know what you mean about tumbleweeds :) I'm just hoping I can keep the thread going and my obvious failure at the band doesn't make me despondent.

Anyway how is everyone today?

Neen - how many kiddies do you have and how old are they?
 
cah-ching said:
Hey chick ... am I missing something here? Are you on some sort of diet? How come your pre-op diet is so long?? OMG 3 months of pre-op diet? What a killer!

I was naughty on my preop diet, I couldn't follow it I was hungry all the while and I'm lactose intolerant (I can't begin to tell you how my body reacted to drinking milk constantly!). In the end I was, courtesy of my dietician on very tiny amounts of food and vegetables.
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I am just on a pre-pre-op diet at the moment. It is only for 4 weeks. low calorie liquid diet. I am lactose intolerant too.*LOL* so the first four days were horrendous. And I know you know what I mean. After that it slowed down quite a bit...still not nice but much more manageable.

AS you know being LI the milk mainly bloated me out so I haven't been hungry. I have had a few little spates of being hungry, but once I got more water I was able to feel full again and wasn't really bothered.

I have to go back to the hossy on the 28th of october ( just under 2 weeks from now) for a review...the pre-pre op was to see if I could 1) follow instructions 2) show commitment 3) lose 5% of my body weight ( I have been given 4 weeks but have up to 9 weeks to lose it) and 4) to make sure I can tolerate being on a liquid diet which is what I would have to do after surgery.

It really has been surprisingly easy, apart from the odd day where it seems like I am not losing much, cuz I can't help weighing myself everyday. It is just a habit I can't shake.

I think after this LCLD I then go on some kind of low calorie diet until Feb which is when my surgery is meant to be....to try and lose as much as I can until then.

I find that frustrating that I will be doing that....as if was originally able to lose weight that way, I wouldn't have even considered surgery in the first place. But I think they will be happy if I just maintain my loss. But I will just continue my healthy lifestyle, and again just do my best to have small portions and start to change things now for my surgery....then at least once I get there, it will be like second nature.


Don't worry girls...I am not going anywhere either....I just thought people talked more on here....but maybe it is just me....just know that I talk.....ALOT....sometimes is it meaningful...sometime, i just repeat myself....sometimes it is just a sounding board for me....but I am always here if anyone needs me....and if you want to talk to me privately ....you know how to do that right? (if you do...let me know cuz i don't *LOL*);)
 
Lovely to hear from you FFBB!

I do feel sorry for you and your tummy. I literally feel I have food poisoning when I drink milk in such large quantites! lol Nuts effect me too.

Good luck for two weeks time!x
 
cah-ching said:
Hiya,

I know what you mean about tumbleweeds :) I'm just hoping I can keep the thread going and my obvious failure at the band doesn't make me despondent.

Anyway how is everyone today?

Neen - how many kiddies do you have and how old are they?
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You're gonna do it! You must just relax a bit and work in some meditation etc to give a balance and help your own stress levels xxx

I have two boys aged 9 and 11 and they are both autistic and go to special school.
My worst time was when I took them out of mainstream and home schooled for a year while we got them diagnosed and eventually into a great school.
I basically turned into a hermit during that time and was too scared to even answer the phone or open the front door.
Happily things are a lot better, we moved house (into a new county as the eldest was not statemented in Somerset and we had to appeal, but Dorset agreed it immediately and we were able to get him into the current school with his brother)
And things are still hectic and stressful but also life is better with my weight loss and the kids calming down more on the whole...still comfort eat a lot though but slowly learning to help myself overcome that.
 
FFBB, I think what we have started on here is great, banders are just not aware of each other because of the sheer amount of bypass related threads.
I think if we try and post to any band related thread we see as well as keep these going, it may gradually beef out but I wouldn't count on it.

This is cool though and a definate improvement on what it was before and I'm really happy to have met you and Cah-ching and all the other banders who wanna muck in!
I always felt like the other banders didn't like me, well I am pretty sure a couple don't despite my best efforts and good intentions...ya can't bond with everyone!

Never mind though! I will always try and offer something if I feel it's relevant or is going to be of use....whether I get any answer or not is not really something I can worry about anymore.
 
Neen said:
FFBB, I think what we have started on here is great, banders are just not aware of each other because of the sheer amount of bypass related threads.
I think if we try and post to any band related thread we see as well as keep these going, it may gradually beef out but I wouldn't count on it.

This is cool though and a definate improvement on what it was before and I'm really happy to have met you and Cah-ching and all the other banders who wanna muck in!
I always felt like the other banders didn't like me, well I am pretty sure a couple don't despite my best efforts and good intentions...ya can't bond with everyone!

Never mind though! I will always try and offer something if I feel it's relevant or is going to be of use....whether I get any answer or not is not really something I can worry about anymore.
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Neen, yeah you are right, you can't bond with everyone. If people don't like you for some reason, then that is down to them and nothing to do with you as a person. I for one think you are lovely!;) Even if you get 5 or 6 people on here who we feel we can talk to and lean on and be a shoulder for...then that is all that matters....I like to help too....sometimes I just rabbit on though, so if I do just tell me. I like to climb on my soap box sometimes....:D

Home schooling..that must have been very difficult. I am lucky with my son's school....well in that, they have been willing to work with any difficulties that may come with my son. Luckily his tourettes really isn't a problem. He is only 5, and in year 1, but he really is doing well. His class mates have all been with him since he was in nursery, so they are used to both his motor and vocal tics. I am also involved with the school PTA, so I can make sure that children like him who may have issues are also looked after. My only worry on the TS front is that I have another son who is almost 18 months and I am not sure if he will develop either. He is showing no signs at the moment, and my eldest did at his age. The thing is for us....tourettes runs on both sides of our families, so the kids have a greater chance of developing it. But I am not too worried....just as long as they kids know that their tics are things they have to do and let out...then they will be fine.

Ca-ching.....how did you cheat on the pre-op? I was told by the nurse that a woman the week I was there was turned down for surgery at the last moment, because she didn't properly follow her pre-op and so her liver was not small enough like it should have been and so they told her no surgery....and she wouldn't get another chance. OUCH!!!

The milk thing...yeah it was ugly....the sound of the gurgling of the milk in my intestines was horrible...but the laco free stuff is much better....no problems on that score now. And not as bloated.;)
 
my goodness .. one autistic child is enough but two! I take my hat off to you.

I comfort ate yesterday ... I was disgusting. I've not stepped on the scales but my clothes tell me I haven't lost any weight or any inches. I'm so frustrated and sad.
I'm having a fill tomorrow - I'll chat with the dietician too and make it clear I want proper help not "you can always get a bypass afterwards" talk!
 
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