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Is it lunch time yet?

My mouth is watering just thinking about the lemon curd, I use yo make my own when the kids were small, I can almost smell it yummmmmme
 
Far too many tears today it's just not healthy...firstly I had a call that my cousin had died and I already miss him so much :'( major blowout with my other half that left me feeling sad and empty. À little encouragement would go a long way but saying he thinks I was selfish asking for it really took the wind out of my sails and I will be traveling to James Cook by bus this week on my own
Then my MRI...definitely no more gym as the degeneration that I thought would slow down after losing weight hasn't in anyway but the bone density is receding quite quickly and I didn't expect that. The main thing that was pointed out was lack of calcium. Crumbling to the T10 and 11 is in such a state they will be recommending complete replacement. This would be a good idea but from the structure of the surrounding vertebrae at this moment in time don't look stable enough to allow this. No more gym for the foreseeable future and I need to be giving going back into my wheelchair some serious consideration to reduce the risk or further damage :(...guess 2015 really isn't my year. Roll on 31st dec :(
 
There are no words, I'm sorry for your loss but also your health and how you must be feeling right now. I'm suer after all you've been thought this is not what you wanted to hear. I don't have a fix or any giving words just a virtual hug :(
 
I can say yet again with all honesty that without this forum and the wonderful friends that I now have I don't know where I would be. The support is amazing and I thank you all. I think I could have dealt with the MRI news as I've had spinal problems for many years but the loss of my cousin just made me crumble. I had few friends growing up as it wasn't permitted but my cousins all more than made up for it when I could get to see them. I so wish I could have had one more day to tell him how he and my others changed so many lonely days into smiles and love. X
 
Sometimes unspoken words are enough and am sure your cousin knew exactly how you felt :) i am a great believer that life goes on.......just in a different realm, he is out there now in a much better place, pain and stress free, and for sure is looking out for you too sweetheart..... take your time and allow yourself the time to remember him, honour him and to mark his passing with love. Be kind on yourself, grief is terribly painful, and although others around us may seem insensitive, i'm sure its just because were are in that space..... give yourself permission to be selfish if that's how it is hunni.... this is your time to grieve do it how ever you choose....... there is no right or wrong ...... i am so sorry this all comes at a really hard time for you too sweetheart, you have been thru the mill this year...its about time things started to turn around now..... I am really sorry to hear your health is slipping too, we all hoped with the weight loss things would get easier..... do what you have to do....and if that means no gym and time in your chair then do it....take time out and get some much needed rest sweets..... we never know what is around the corner eh...... lets hope its tons of sunshine and roses :)

I want to offer you a huge virtual hug .... close your eyes you'll feel me there by your side :) get some sleep..........i promise things will seem a little bright in the morning....and i promise everyday they will be brighter still :) gl at hospital this week sweetheart, don't hold that grudge to long..... treasure those you love and keep them close ;)

Huge huge huge hugs x x x x sorry all i can offer is words :( x x x x x
 
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Sometimes unspoken words are enough and am sure your cousin knew exactly how you felt :) i am a great believer that life goes on.......just in a different realm, he is out there now in a much better place, pain and stress free, and for sure is looking out for you too sweetheart..... take your time and allow yourself the time to remember him, honour him and to mark his passing with love. Be kind on yourself, grief is terribly painful, and although others around us may seem insensitive, i'm sure its just because were are in that space..... give yourself permission to be selfish if that's how it is hunni.... this is your time to grieve do it how ever you choose....... there is no right or wrong ...... i am so sorry this all comes at a really hard time for you too sweetheart, you have been thru the mill this year...its about time things started to turn around now..... I am really sorry to hear your health is slipping too, we all hoped with the weight loss things would get easier..... do what you have to do....and if that means no gym and time in your chair then do it....take time out and get some much needed rest sweets..... we never know what is around the corner eh...... lets hope its tons of sunshine and roses :) I want to offer you a huge virtual hug .... close your eyes you'll feel me there by your side :) get some sleep..........i promise things will seem a little bright in the morning....and i promise everyday they will be brighter still :) gl at hospital this week sweetheart, don't hold that grudge to long..... treasure those you love and keep them close ;) Huge huge huge hugs x x x x sorry all i can offer is words :( x x x x x
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thank you hun those words mean so much even when unspoken. As you said he is suffering no more. He goes on to join his mum and dad with arms laden with love. He will be missed so much by many as he served his country well. He died of emphysema bright on from his time served in Iraq so will be. Pain free. This is to be. A military funeral as he deserved his colours. Thanks as I said it means so much. As for the rest they can sit and wait my worry another day now as things are pressing.
Many many hugs in return my dear friend. Xxx xxx
 
You are being hit so hard from all sides right Cupid. Nothing I can say will help. You are incredibly strong to just get on with life on a day to day basis. I hope you get a brighter period in your life soon xxx
 
Please can anyone give me advice on massive increase since yesterday. In 14hrs by my scales I have put on 7.5lbs :'(
I honestly can't see any reason for it either. At the hospital they weighed my 2hrs before my op and their scales are exactly the same as mine to the oz. Is this normal? Definitely in a massive amount of pain and can't walk at all. My head feels like it's gonna pop. I didn't get anything like this after my bypass and pain management wasn't an issue either. I feel like such an idiot and that I'm making a massive mountain out of a mole hill. Wasn't even in this much pain after an emergency section in fact after that I was up in 4hrs after. Passed out a few times and ok I was throwing up for 2wks back then and didn't have epidural either. This seems like I'm reacting over the top but it's pretty scary. They sent me home 3hrs after the op as there was no beds but said the local doctor and nurse will keep an eye on me. Please can anyone give me a reason to the gain I'm feeling so unhappy right now and have just woken up after a 6hrs sleep? :'(
 
Ok so panic over thank goodness spoken to my team and due to the mess that was in there it took longer than they thought. Was meant to be 40mins max but ended up being almost 3hours. I lost 3 plus pints of blood which had to be replaced with plasma partially frozen as I can't have blood stock, therefore because the plasma weighs more that will count for the increase and I had to have 2 bags of glucose too so that won't help. In a few days it will start to move back down as it should do. I got strict orders to double up on fluids to try flush any impurities through the system and I managed a jug full since surgery which for me is amazing. Spending next few days in bed hoping that nothing will go wrong to postpone my holiday so keep those fingers crossed for me please ladies. 6 weeks and six days counting. :) xxx
 
Hope you feel better soon plenty of rest is the key after any surgery and you have had two fairly close so may not have recovered properly from one before the other and enjoy the holiday when it gets here oh and your doing amazingly well big hugs
 
oh goodness sweetheart make sure you take the docs advise t the letter.... we don't want any slip backs now..... sorry you had a harrowing time there for awhile and sorry i wasn't around to send some calming words ......i do wish u'd txt me hunni :( i hope today your feeling tad brighter lots of rest and fluids as ordered and each day slowly you'll start to regain your strength, count down has begun to the holiday.............make sure your 110% tip top and fighting fit for the holiday of your dreams :) x x x x xhuge hugs sweetheart x x x
 
Thanks everyone I have a temp of 100.4 or 38.6 not good as I'm normally 35.6 and am shaking so badly is a good job I sleep on the ground floor or the ceiling would go through downstairs. If no better by morning I will call the doctor out. I have take very very strong pain killers that are morphine based but although the pain is still bad it's now down to an 8 and paracetamol so will give it another hour to start coming down. I am drinking loads too so that should help too. Night all gonna try see if I can sleep night all and thank you. Xxxxxxxx
 
awww night night hunni.......be sure to call that doc if you don't feel any better....even in middle of the night if you have too x x x sending some reiki later when i'm to bed x x x
 
Aww bless you Cupid!... That temp is very high!... It might mean a bit of infection hun!.... Best to call the Drs to be safe!.... So hope your feeling better soon, I had mine out and remember it being painful but passing quite quickly.
 
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