my hospital experience

[Ruthiep]

Ruthie that is beautiful and I love it can you send me the musical version please? Also would it be alright with you if I kept a copy of it...I want to put it in a frame and put it on my wall in my new flat (when I get it) to remind me why I'm in a new flat I will of course make sure everyone knows exactly who wrote it (a gorgeous lady from my wonderful forum). About the ****** who called you an amateur...his loss and tsk loser!!! It's fabulous love.

Wow thank you! Of course you can keep the lyrics and frame it, I'd be so honoured! I am going to look up the musical version. I know I have a longish clip of it, I have found that, but I'm not sure if I have the whole thing. If for now the longish clip is enough please tell me where to email it and I'll send it to you. It gives you the verse and chorus so I guess you can work out that the rest is the same.

 

[VikiB]

Thanks everyone
I try really hard to be good and follow the rules I mean after all I have been a fat woman for nearly 25 years and now if I follow a few simple rules and be careful I could be a size 14 or even smaller. Why would I risk not reaching my goal?? Food has controlled me for far too long to allow it to win once again. I'm not going to make myself crazy worrying about her being angry at me. I'm just going to continue doing what I'm doing...it's working well and I feel great most of the time. Have a great evening
Much Love

 

[VikiB]

Hi VMeister
Hope you are well, am catching up on your thread as I've missed my laptop since Sun last week xxx

I love that VMeister thanks darlin
I am doing great thanks How are you? Sorry to hear about your laptop is it sorted now?
Much Love

 

[Tonibones10]

Thanks everyone
I try really hard to be good and follow the rules I mean after all I have been a fat woman for nearly 25 years and now if I follow a few simple rules and be careful I could be a size 14 or even smaller. Why would I risk not reaching my goal?? Food has controlled me for far too long to allow it to win once again. I'm not going to make myself crazy worrying about her being angry at me. I'm just going to continue doing what I'm doing...it's working well and I feel great most of the time. Have a great evening
Much Love

Your doing brilliant and your friend should not be angry with you for trying she should be angry with herself for not trying ... keep going hun in 6 months you will look back and be so so happy with the new you .... xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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[Ruthiep]

Hey VickiB did you get the clip OK? I just found the whole song in mp3. If you like the clip I could send you the whole thing; the only condition is; I retain the copyright so no passing it around LOL!

 

[VikiB]

Hiya everyone,
I love the clip Ruthie and would love the whole song. Don't worry though I may let my daughter listen to it I will never pass it around. You are very talented
I am not going to worry about my friend being angry with me. I am doing what is right for me and if thats a problem for her then thats just a problem for her.
I mentioned earlier in this thread about an ex who came to see me in hospital...small dilema...he has been buying me things and yesterday said he and his brother and sister-in-law would love for me to go to Belgium (I have wanted to go there for years) with them this summer. He asked if he could get me things for Valentines day and he wants to take me out to buy some new clothes (none of mine fit now) and to dinner (that I can eat) on the 4th....the 4th is my husbands birthday though (not sure what I should do as I want to go but also don't want to send the wrong signals or rock the boat in the house right now). My husband never does anything but a card for me for Valentines day so not sure if I should go out or not that day either. Does me going out mean I am playing the ex (I do enough his company but atm I'm not interested in a relationship beyond friendship with anyone...he does know this though. I'm not the type to play head games)? Does it mean I am being just as bad as my husband?? I don't know....advice anyone?????
Also have noticed that if I have a drink or something to eat my stomach makes weird noises afterwards...not disturbing really just a bit embarrassing in a quiet room lol. Does anyone else feel nauseous when you have had enough food?? I get this but I like it as it prevents me just eating until everything is gone like before.
Anyhow blah blah blah me...sorry.
Have a beautiful day
Much Love and hugs

 

[Ruthiep]

I just sent you the whole song by email. Hope you enjoy it! Let me know!

As to your friend inviting you out, as long as you don't step "over the mark" with him, I don't see there is anything wrong at all with going out for dinner with a friend. Personally I'd draw the line at him buying me clothes, that's getting very personal and could be misconstrued, but it's up to you.

I think most if not all of us have experienced the noisy stomach syndrome. Don't worry about it, it's par for the course unfortunately!

Love Ruthie

 

[jenny17]

I would go out with your friends and stuff your husband. He has treated you terribly this last few months, and you deserve to be happy. Show him that you don't need him. I have a friend whose husband behaved in a similar way to your's and she lost her confidence completely. However, after a while she stopped putting up with his crap and as soon as he realised that she was no longer at his beck and call, his attitude changed completely because he was no longer able to control her. They did get divorced in the end, but it was on her terms and is happier now than she ever was with him. Take control and do what you WANT to do, not what you think you SHOULD do! And be happy

 

[Newmelani]

I would go out with your friends and stuff your husband. He has treated you terribly this last few months, and you deserve to be happy. Show him that you don't need him. I have a friend whose husband behaved in a similar way to your's and she lost her confidence completely. However, after a while she stopped putting up with his crap and as soon as he realised that she was no longer at his beck and call, his attitude changed completely because he was no longer able to control her. They did get divorced in the end, but it was on her terms and is happier now than she ever was with him. Take control and do what you WANT to do, not what you think you SHOULD do! And be happy

I agree with Jenny. You should go and enjoy yourself. Your husband doesn't deserve your respect or thoughtfulness. You deserve to be spoiled! Let someone spoil you! Let me know what you decide! =)

 

[VikiB]

Thanks girlies I'm going to take your comments on-board and talk to my bestie tonight when I go see her and take what my daughter said (she told me to go and enjoy myself stop doing things to please others and make myself happy I deserve it) and will decide soon. Will let you know what I've decided when I know myself lol. Love you all very much
Have a gorgeous (very wet here) day

 

[Tonibones10]

Oh I never saw the last post you put, I think you should do what makes you happy hun and I agree with your daughter you defo deserve it you are so sweet and lovely to everyone yet have been treated like something you find on the bottom of your shoe by the man who should love you, if you go and do what you want now and make you happy it shows that your a much better person than him and you just want to get on with your life and make it better for the future so don't worry about him or what he thinks because you mrs are a wonderful beautiful lady who deserves every happiness! And as for your ex I think he sounds to be helping tons and as long as he know its just friends then your not leading him on just having fun with a friend so I'd say go for it, xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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[PurpleKylie22]

Vicki, this may cheer you up a little, I love this song! Doghouse - The creepshow - YouTube (its got a little swearing in it at the end)

I have loved reading your story and I hope you get set up in a new house soon. Your really lucky to have your ex be so great and supportive, I completely understand your not wanting any relationships at present, but he could turn into one of the best friends you will ever have sounds like he already is! As long as he knows where you stand there shouldn't be any problems, there. You just enjoy having someone taking care of you for once

 

[PurpleKylie22]

Just to add, there is a possability that maybe your ex is just lonely and wants you as a friend in his life! Ok valentines day is meant for something else, but maybe he just wants to spend the day with someone instead of alone? In that case its doing no harm to anyone to go out with him. Just make sure you both on the same page and then go ahead and do it! No point mopeing around, if he was a female you wouldnt have a problem spending the evening with him... (in a totally non-sexual type way)

 

[VikiB]

Thanks for all the lovely advice I'm still not sure what to do yet but will decide soon. I'm fed up with being treated like a nobody who doesn't matter. I want to go out and do my own things now with no guilt attached and no strings either. I've spent 30 years walking on eggshells and trying to keep the peace with everyone in my house and making sure they were all happy regardless of my own feelings. I want to stop walking on the eggshells and make myself happy now. I feel like I'm being smothered and I've lost nearly all of who I am in my current relationship and I don't want to go from that to being smothered and losing what I've gained back in the last few months to another guy (not even a nice ex). I'm sorry I'm rambling aren't I??? LOL
Anyhow, I'm going to think about it all for a while longer.
Thanks for the song, love it!
Much love

 

[NOMOREyoyo]

Just take one day at a time chick - what will be will be xxxxxxxx

 

[VikiB]

Today has been a horrible day. I woke up seriously dizzy and throwing up...spent the whole day in bed with a bucket by my side unuable to eat anything at all. It's an inner-ear infection that I have been given a betahistine for...I am just now feeling ok enough to eat some pureed fruit then I am going back to bed.
Hope you are all well
much love

 

[Ruthiep]

Oh poor you Vicki sorry to hear you're not well. Look after yourself and get well soon. xxx

 

[NOMOREyoyo]

Today has been a horrible day. I woke up seriously dizzy and throwing up...spent the whole day in bed with a bucket by my side unuable to eat anything at all. It's an inner-ear infection that I have been given a betahistine for...I am just now feeling ok enough to eat some pureed fruit then I am going back to bed.
Hope you are all well
much love

Poor thing - keep up your liquids hunni :flowers::flowers::flowers:

 

[Newmelani]

Today has been a horrible day. I woke up seriously dizzy and throwing up...spent the whole day in bed with a bucket by my side unuable to eat anything at all. It's an inner-ear infection that I have been given a betahistine for...I am just now feeling ok enough to eat some pureed fruit then I am going back to bed.
Hope you are all well
much love

Sorry you aren't feeling well. Take it easy and get some rest. I hope you will feel better soon!

 

[pandora]

Hope tomorrow sees you feeling better xx