my hospital experience

[Newmelani]

My mum was tiny ... we were never the kind of people to to argue much and towards the end we were so so so close I couldn't say how much she meant to me and had always said if I went for this op she would support me ... wish she could be here to help me through it, my grandma is the one to always put you down she can be really nasty! Xx

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I'm sorry about your mom..... Even though my mom is a pain sometimes, I do love her so much. I can't imagine how you feel. I know you have lots of friends here though who love you and will be here to support you as much as we can. You can do this!

 

[Tonibones10]

I'm sorry about your mom..... Even though my mom is a pain sometimes, I do love her so much. I can't imagine how you feel. I know you have lots of friends here though who love you and will be here to support you as much as we can. You can do this!

Aw thank you, yeah I can do this with you lot and the rest of my family I do have a lot of support which is vital for anything like this! How are you getting on with the pre op diet Xx

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[Newmelani]

Aw thank you, yeah I can do this with you lot and the rest of my family I do have a lot of support which is vital for anything like this! How are you getting on with the pre op diet Xx

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I'm feeling pretty lousy to be honest.... I'm not sure if it's normal, but I feel dizzy and I'm so tired. A little nauseous too. I'm going to bed early I think

 

[Fuffs]

Thanks Fuffs
I have been on a rough journey and went to some pretty dark places (thinking the world would be better without me etc) It took alot of work and looking inside myself to start climbing out of the hole I let myself get shoved into and when my surgery date came up and I started getting needled about it with all kinds of negetivity (from just my husband everyone else was supporting me 100%) My spine hardened and I refused to let it all get to me and now I am doing things that make me feel good I don't care what he has to say anymore. This is about me, for me and if that makes me a selfish person then to bad. I come here because no matter what I'm feeling or when I can feel the love and genuine caring about me in every word typed to me My real journey has begun and what a fantastic one it is going to be With all of you giving me encouragement I will prevail Thanks everyone and hug hug hug hug hug.......

That whole post was full if such spirit, determination and fight!!! So proud of you! You are taking back the you that has been broken down and fixing her back together has a new improved model

Your hubby will need to man up or step aside. He won't be ready for you beautiful, hot chick

Enjoy your new life chick!! Xxx

 

[Tonibones10]

I'm feeling pretty lousy to be honest.... I'm not sure if it's normal, but I feel dizzy and I'm so tired. A little nauseous too. I'm going to bed early I think

I can't tell you from experience as I'm pre op but I can only imagine it is because on our pre op diets we are pretty much starving our body of a lot food that its used to and if I miss a couple of meals I get like that so yeah I'd say its normal but just carry on 1 day at a time and just think in 13 days or is it 12 now you will have your op and really start the 'newmelani' xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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[Snow White]

Toni I am so sorry I made you cry. It was not my intention at all I only meant to assure that some moms just have a knack for making you feel bad even when they don't mean to (mine doesn't mean to it's just how it comes out). I'm very sorry about your mom. I hope you are ok (((HUGS)))

Ruthie I used to get my hair and nails done for my mental health but just lost every part of being me for a long time (after my husband cheated on me 2 1/2 years ago) I am only just getting back me and the thought of going and having my hair or nails done fills me with joy right now. Maybe the wound is finally healing and I'm starting to be me again...hopefully a better me physically Your facial sounds beneficial in lots of ways. I'm glad you enjoy it

Awww sweetie! I think we need to add girly pampering session to a meet up! I know what it feels like to look at yourself and feel like there is a shell of the person you once were looking back at you. It's not nice. ((hugs))

 

[Ruthiep]

Wow! What a lot of positive, upbeat posts! It does my heart good to read all of them. VickiB you have come SO far since you first wrote about your hubby leaving you. You are strong.. in fact I wrote a song years ago (I was a lyricist in another incarnation) that could almost have been written for you. Will you indulge me and let me post the lyrics here? Anyone who wants the mp3 so they can hear the music (I didn't compose the music just wrote the lyrics) can pm me or email me and I'll try and dig it up. It's not amazing quality as it was recorded pre the digital age but it's a good song.

Anyway, here are the lyrics to "There'll come a day."

There'll come a day I'll look into the mirror
And I'll like what I see
Kick out the girl who cried at her reflection
Inconsequentially

Oh yea, All my life's been leading to
Being strong enough to get over you
There'll come a day from morning thru to evening
That I won't cry at all



There'll come a day, I've grabbed it by the collar
Twisting its paisley tie
Day; you'll go noplace till you take me with ya
And I'll spit in his eye

Oh yea, confidence empowers me
To walk alone independently
There'll come a day you'll look at me and wonder
Should you have left at all?

Middle verse :

This is the brave, new woman of tomorrow
Needing no man
She can climb up where you cannot follow
Catch me if you can!



There'll come a day you'll wish you'd never left me
Seeing me proud and strong
You'll come a-begging but I will not want you
Never loved you all along
Oh yea, Walking tall without a man
If I can do it, anyone can
There'll come a day, I've made a reservation
Tomorrow it will be here.

 

[Newmelani]

Wow! That's beautiful! It does sound like it was for Viki! Viki, we're so proud of you!

 

[Ruthiep]

Thanks I wrote it originally as part of a musical I was working on with a guy who was pretty high up in the Very Useful Company (Andrew Lloyd Webber's outfit). We kicked some ideas around for a while, I wrote a few songs, then he got bored of what he called "working with an amateur" and dumped me, but he taught me a heck of a lot about lyric writing for those six months.

 

[Miss DeeDee]

Thanks I wrote it originally as part of a musical I was working on with a guy who was pretty high up in the Very Useful Company (Andrew Lloyd Webber's outfit). We kicked some ideas around for a while, I wrote a few songs, then he got bored of what he called "working with an amateur" and dumped me, but he taught me a heck of a lot about lyric writing for those six months.

his loss !!! men :sigh:

 

[Ruthiep]

his loss !!! men :sigh:

Yup!

 

[VikiB]

Sorry I haven't responded for a few days. I went to my besties house and then to my doctors appointment today. I had a great time. My bestie is such a great woman I love her so much and it was good spending a whole day with her just catching up on all the gossip lol. Will tell you about my doctor visit then relpy to everyone. I am down from 123.7kilos to 113.5 kilos He said I am doing extremely well and he is proud of the weight lose thus far. I told him about the iron syrup making me sick and he said that if I'm doing ok with my other tablets he can see no reason for me to not be on an iron tablet. So he's given me a prescription for iron tablets

Melani honey I don't know how normal it is but I'm going to assume that alot of people probably had this feeling sick, dizzy and tired you have going on right now. I did for sure. It's probably due to the lack of food you are consuming. I still get really tired even now but I am still big and I'm eating like I'm small. If it concerns you too much please call your consultant and ask her/his advice I'm glad you all are proud of me and I hope you all know how proud of you I am.

Fuffs He is going to regret everything he has done. My daughters 21 year old friend said to me the other day that my husband is nuts because I am a bit of alright...he was probably just trying to make feel good but hey I take all compliments now lol

Snow White I'd love to do that. I am free the week of 2nd of February. If you'd like to go shopping, have our nails done, or whatever...let me know and I'll see if I can get a few more people to join us if you like.

Ruthie that is beautiful and I love it can you send me the musical version please? Also would it be alright with you if I kept a copy of it...I want to put it in a frame and put it on my wall in my new flat (when I get it) to remind me why I'm in a new flat I will of course make sure everyone knows exactly who wrote it (a gorgeous lady from my wonderful forum). About the ****** who called you an amateur...his loss and tsk loser!!! It's fabulous love.
Doughie hope you are well
I think thats all for now I've blah blahed enough.
Much love darlins Have a wonderful evening

 

[Fuffs]

Fuffs He is going to regret everything he has done. My daughters 21 year old friend said to me the other day that my husband is nuts because I am a bit of alright...he was probably just trying to make feel good but hey I take all compliments now lol

Good!! Karma is going to Bruce Lee style kick is a$$!!!!

You go girl!! You are an attractive lady Embrace that fact as you strut your shrinking bum off into the next chapter of your life

 

[Newmelani]

Thanks Viki! I'm doing better now. Still feeling a little tired, but much better. I'm really pushing fluids and trying to drink a shake every 3 hours. That seems to help! I'm so excited your Dr appt went so well! You're doing fabulous!

 

[VikiB]

I texted a friend of mine yesterday to ask how she was and we talked for a bit and then she got angry at me because I am not eating real food yet. She says I'm being too careful by following the doctors advice and waiting until next week (when my four weeks is up) to start pureeds. She had her surgery the day after me with the same consultant and the same hospital so her schedule is the same as mine. She has been eating pureed and real food since she left hospital while (other than my one cheat with beans) I have stayed on soups and not tried pureed yet. I'm not sure why she is angry at me for following my schedule but she is. ???? I have never said anything to her other than be careful as I think it would be wrong of me to try to tell someone else what to do. I think we all have our own journey to take and though I can tell you my experience good or bad at the end of the day it's your journey and what you do is up to you...so why it is so upsetting that I choose to be careful and follow the rules to the best of my ability I don't get.
Anyway I just needed to have a moan sorry...how are all of you? Hope nobody is ill today and that you are all having a great day.
much love

 

[stefanie]

Hi vicki, she probably is feeling guilty because she has not followed the rules and you have. She probably wanted you to have broken the rules to justify what she has done. As you know (beans) there is a reason for sticking to purred for four weeks, your body is still healing inside. You stick with it girl, and congratulations on your weight loss so far, you will be in a size 12 before too long xxxx

 

[stefanie]

That should be liquid sorry, not pured!!!

 

[NOMOREyoyo]

Hi VMeister
Hope you are well, am catching up on your thread as I've missed my laptop since Sun last week xxx

 

[Newmelani]

I texted a friend of mine yesterday to ask how she was and we talked for a bit and then she got angry at me because I am not eating real food yet. She says I'm being too careful by following the doctors advice and waiting until next week (when my four weeks is up) to start pureeds. She had her surgery the day after me with the same consultant and the same hospital so her schedule is the same as mine. She has been eating pureed and real food since she left hospital while (other than my one cheat with beans) I have stayed on soups and not tried pureed yet. I'm not sure why she is angry at me for following my schedule but she is. ???? I have never said anything to her other than be careful as I think it would be wrong of me to try to tell someone else what to do. I think we all have our own journey to take and though I can tell you my experience good or bad at the end of the day it's your journey and what you do is up to you...so why it is so upsetting that I choose to be careful and follow the rules to the best of my ability I don't get.
Anyway I just needed to have a moan sorry...how are all of you? Hope nobody is ill today and that you are all having a great day.
much love

Viki, you are doing amazing! I can't believe she didn't follow the rules. I am scared to death to mess up. Someone is always saying, just chest a little. Nobody will know.... I said, yes they will! This diet is for a reason! I just had a dream last night that I binged on doughnuts, cookies, cake, tacos, etc. When I was done, I said, OMG they're going to cancel my surgery! I woke up realized it was a dream. I was soooooo relieved! Sticking to the rules is exactly what we're supposed to do! That's how we get amazing results! You're doing what you're supposed to do and you'll get the benefits from that! Love ya girl!

 

[Newmelani]

Cheat a little... Not chest! Stupid Auto text!