my hospital experience

[Ruthiep]

Fantastic VickiB!

I must sing the praises of a facial I had yesterday. What has a facial to do with weightloss, you might ask? Well, she massages my upper chest and upper back too, and I think a lot of fluid drainage results. I was bursting for the loo afterwards (which in itself is unlike me post op), peed for England, and was 2lbs down this morning! If it wasn't so pricey I'd have one every day LOL!

 

[Snow White]

I went to my diabetic clinic today and my diabetes is down from 8.4 to 7.2 in just 19 days and my tests are running completely normal non-diabetic range. I haven't taken any meds for it since a week before my surgery. I feel really good...oh and I have gone from 123.7 kilos to 115.2 It is really cold outside today and I had to wait 45 minutes for my bus but I am still happy Imagine what I will be like a few months from now

Well done! You should feel really proud of yourself x

 

[Raynebubble]

It's just that my close family are very honest with me; they tell me when they're fedup hearing about it !

i know how you feel... ive been so down and my mum said the other day ..your making everyone else feel down!! that made me worse and i went home in tears.
I am trying now not to talk about it much... i have a couple of friends who are great and can chat forever about other things so that helps... but one friend is forever going on and on and saying... oh we are having ths for dinner...oh sorry you cant have that now can you!! arrrrghhh lol

 

[Fuffs]

i know how you feel... ive been so down and my mum said the other day ..your making everyone else feel down!! that made me worse and i went home in tears.
I am trying now not to talk about it much... i have a couple of friends who are great and can chat forever about other things so that helps... but one friend is forever going on and on and saying... oh we are having ths for dinner...oh sorry you cant have that now can you!! arrrrghhh lol

Moms, always know when and how to say the right thing.....Not!!! Lol

Good job you have all us lot to gas to lol

 

[VikiB]

Wow a facial OMG I could go for one of those. I bet that felt marvelous Ruthie My daughter sometimes gives me a hand massage ohhh feels so nice and surprisingly it relieves so much stress. She says thats because it's massaging pressure points...idk about that but it sure feels nice for days after
I don't have anyone to talk to when I feel down because I feel like I used it all up with my marriage problems and I'm afraid now it will just make everyone roll their eyes and think oh god here we go again (thats probably all in my head but it's in my head so it's what I think about) Thats why I moan here and I sometimes even feel guilty about that. Moms don't always say what you need to hear. My mom is a champ at saying whatever will make me feel the most like an idiotic piece of crap. Hopefully we give you strength to make it through your down times Rayne. Trust me we all have bad days when things just aren't the way we want them to be. I am here whenever you need a chat. I may not have advice that will help but I understand how you feel and will listen as long as you need. ((hugs)) The only person who talks to me about food and then says oh but you can't have that is my husband but I'm sure unlike him your friend isn't doing it to be spiteful.
I hope you are feeling better now.

 

[Tonibones10]

Wow a facial OMG I could go for one of those. I bet that felt marvelous Ruthie My daughter sometimes gives me a hand massage ohhh feels so nice and surprisingly it relieves so much stress. She says thats because it's massaging pressure points...idk about that but it sure feels nice for days after
I don't have anyone to talk to when I feel down because I feel like I used it all up with my marriage problems and I'm afraid now it will just make everyone roll their eyes and think oh god here we go again (thats probably all in my head but it's in my head so it's what I think about) Thats why I moan here and I sometimes even feel guilty about that. Moms don't always say what you need to hear. My mom is a champ at saying whatever will make me feel the most like an idiotic piece of crap. Hopefully we give you strength to make it through your down times Rayne. Trust me we all have bad days when things just aren't the way we want them to be. I am here whenever you need a chat. I may not have advice that will help but I understand how you feel and will listen as long as you need. ((hugs)) The only person who talks to me about food and then says oh but you can't have that is my husband but I'm sure unlike him your friend isn't doing it to be spiteful.
I hope you are feeling better now.

Mums really do say things to hurt you my mum used to be exactly the same but I'd gladly have her snidy remarks everyday if I could have her back ... omg not cried for weeks but writing that now tears are rolling :'( so sorry for crying on your thread lol! .... what I really came to say moan here all you like we all sympathise and will never be bored of what your saying ... well I won't anyway! I hope your going ok since your op hun xxx

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[Ruthiep]

I love facials; they're my treat for my skin and have really helped keep it looking good. Also the beautician is lovely; we have such nice chats while she's working on me. I hear all about her life; it's like a soap opera! and she hears about mine. She's fascinated about my op; yes she's one of those I've told; saw no reason not to; also as I strip down to my bra she sees my scars.

As to mums and what they say; well I'm a mum of adult kids but I'm also a breastfeeding counsellor and antenatal teacher with the NCT; and when the NCT train you, they give you a lot of counselling skills so you end up knowing how to make someone feel better. It's a very useful life skill as well as incredibly useful for my work.

 

[VikiB]

Toni I am so sorry I made you cry. It was not my intention at all I only meant to assure that some moms just have a knack for making you feel bad even when they don't mean to (mine doesn't mean to it's just how it comes out). I'm very sorry about your mom. I hope you are ok (((HUGS)))

Ruthie I used to get my hair and nails done for my mental health but just lost every part of being me for a long time (after my husband cheated on me 2 1/2 years ago) I am only just getting back me and the thought of going and having my hair or nails done fills me with joy right now. Maybe the wound is finally healing and I'm starting to be me again...hopefully a better me physically Your facial sounds beneficial in lots of ways. I'm glad you enjoy it

 

[Raynebubble]

i do love my mum but sometimes she can say things like that, but then other times she can be the opposite... i think she doesnt really understand what we are going through... but im glad i have you lovley people to chat to... you my rocks xxxxx

 

[Fuffs]

Toni I am so sorry I made you cry. It was not my intention at all I only meant to assure that some moms just have a knack for making you feel bad even when they don't mean to (mine doesn't mean to it's just how it comes out). I'm very sorry about your mom. I hope you are ok (((HUGS)))

Ruthie I used to get my hair and nails done for my mental health but just lost every part of being me for a long time (after my husband cheated on me 2 1/2 years ago) I am only just getting back me and the thought of going and having my hair or nails done fills me with joy right now. Maybe the wound is finally healing and I'm starting to be me again...hopefully a better me physically Your facial sounds beneficial in lots of ways. I'm glad you enjoy it

Viki, it sounds like you have been on a seriously rough journey. Never feel bad about venting on here. We all think we are a nuisance. But what make this forum beautiful is everyone wants to help. We are all friends

You are doing soooo well! Keep up the amazing work lovely lady xxx

 

[Fuffs]

i do love my mum but sometimes she can say things like that, but then other times she can be the opposite... i think she doesnt really understand what we are going through... but im glad i have you lovley people to chat to... you my rocks xxxxx

I think many moms are like that. I may even be like that lol. I guess we never realise.

This forum is awesome!!!

 

[Tonibones10]

Toni I am so sorry I made you cry. It was not my intention at all I only meant to assure that some moms just have a knack for making you feel bad even when they don't mean to (mine doesn't mean to it's just how it comes out). I'm very sorry about your mom. I hope you are ok (((HUGS)))

Ruthie I used to get my hair and nails done for my mental health but just lost every part of being me for a long time (after my husband cheated on me 2 1/2 years ago) I am only just getting back me and the thought of going and having my hair or nails done fills me with joy right now. Maybe the wound is finally healing and I'm starting to be me again...hopefully a better me physically Your facial sounds beneficial in lots of ways. I'm glad you enjoy it

Aw sweetheart no it was just something hit me for some reason! I'd never thought I'd be so upset that I'd hear my mum shout at me or something like that I'm usually ok I guess I just haven't cried for a while so it just made me realise how much I miss her again and scares me that I have to go through this without her to talk to when I'm in hospital she'd do little things like make sure had a Tele card or she would make sure I had the last of her change "just in case" my his when it hits me it really hits me ........ sorry I didn't mean to make u feel bad hun my mum could be snidiest person in the world sometimes so I understand that! Lol she didn't talk to me for 2 weeks when I found out I was pregnant because I was in the wrong but we were so close when we didn't argue I'm sorry xxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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[VikiB]

Viki, it sounds like you have been on a seriously rough journey. Never feel bad about venting on here. We all think we are a nuisance. But what make this forum beautiful is everyone wants to help. We are all friends

You are doing soooo well! Keep up the amazing work lovely lady xxx

Thanks Fuffs
I have been on a rough journey and went to some pretty dark places (thinking the world would be better without me etc) It took alot of work and looking inside myself to start climbing out of the hole I let myself get shoved into and when my surgery date came up and I started getting needled about it with all kinds of negetivity (from just my husband everyone else was supporting me 100%) My spine hardened and I refused to let it all get to me and now I am doing things that make me feel good I don't care what he has to say anymore. This is about me, for me and if that makes me a selfish person then to bad. I come here because no matter what I'm feeling or when I can feel the love and genuine caring about me in every word typed to me My real journey has begun and what a fantastic one it is going to be With all of you giving me encouragement I will prevail Thanks everyone and hug hug hug hug hug.......

 

[VikiB]

Toni don't be sorry hun I just thought I had hurt your feelings which I NEVER want to do. I am your friend always and foremost. I still have my mom...she lives 4000 miles away and I hardly ever see her so I miss her something awful sometimes...I cried big time at Christmas because she sent me a letter that simply said (my mom is illiterate and can't write at all) I love you Merry Christmas...it was very touching and meant sooo much to me. She spelled Merry Christmas wrong but for her to try so hard to send me a message of love....

 

[Tonibones10]

Toni don't be sorry hun I just thought I had hurt your feelings which I NEVER want to do. I am your friend always and foremost. I still have my mom...she lives 4000 miles away and I hardly ever see her so I miss her something awful sometimes...I cried big time at Christmas because she sent me a letter that simply said (my mom is illiterate and can't write at all) I love you Merry Christmas...it was very touching and meant sooo much to me. She spelled Merry Christmas wrong but for her to try so hard to send me a message of love....

Oh no you didn't hurt my feelings at all thank you so much, oh that is so touching to get that from your mum its amazing that she could do that for you, those are the things that mean so much to you I still have the speech my mum wrote for my wedding and am planning to read it at my sisters wedding so she can feel like our mum is there (julia who commented on my Facebook status) I also have a card she sent me 5 years ago that says love mum x ... xxx

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[VikiB]

Moms can be a pain but they also give so much of themselves and do things that make you remember that above all else or any stupid thing they say or do they love you like no one else ever will come close to.
My daughter talks about me to her friends and I overheard her say "My mom is the best mom on the planet...she has sacraficed everything to make sure I had everything I needed. She is still wearing clothes from 10 years ago while she makes sure I don't need anything at all. It's time my mom gets something she needs." All I can say is all these 21 years I felt like such a failure but that one conversation I wasn't meant to hear made me feel like I am more than I see in the mirror and I MATTER. My moms letter said the same thing.

 

[VikiB]

As do all the wonderful comments I get from all the lovely people here

 

[Tonibones10]

Moms can be a pain but they also give so much of themselves and do things that make you remember that above all else or any stupid thing they say or do they love you like no one else ever will come close to.
My daughter talks about me to her friends and I overheard her say "My mom is the best mom on the planet...she has sacraficed everything to make sure I had everything I needed. She is still wearing clothes from 10 years ago while she makes sure I don't need anything at all. It's time my mom gets something she needs." All I can say is all these 21 years I felt like such a failure but that one conversation I wasn't meant to hear made me feel like I am more than I see in the mirror and I MATTER. My moms letter said the same thing.

Aw that is so lovely what your daughter said she is such a credit to you u have done such a good job bringing her up! If my son ever says anything half as nice as that I know I've done an ok job! ... Xx

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[Newmelani]

My mom is the same too. She hurts my feelings a lot, but I'm not sure she realizes it. I know she loves me. I know she's really jealous of my surgery and not sure how she'll react when I get smaller than her..... Time will tell

 

[Tonibones10]

My mom is the same too. She hurts my feelings a lot, but I'm not sure she realizes it. I know she loves me. I know she's really jealous of my surgery and not sure how she'll react when I get smaller than her..... Time will tell

My mum was tiny ... we were never the kind of people to to argue much and towards the end we were so so so close I couldn't say how much she meant to me and had always said if I went for this op she would support me ... wish she could be here to help me through it, my grandma is the one to always put you down she can be really nasty! Xx

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