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BANDERS UNITE ! Get to know each other chatter !

Afternoon roomies xxx
 
Hi Mazza, it's 2 weeks on Thurs, so not too much longer, I'm hoping to have lost another couple of lbs by then. I'm glad you've notice a difference with your fill, you'll be at goal in no time.
What's Lost real name, I'm not sure if I'm friends with her on fb?
Afternoon Julie, how're you? xx
 
Morning all. How is everyone today? I have a headache and wonder if it is down to coming off most of my BP meds. I am gearing myself ready for returning to work a week on Monday - I am dreading it. I am trying to catch up with emails in readiness and am getting really stressed by it all. Still getting some mobility back will make all the difference so I am hoping I will cope. Have to really unless I win the lottery this weekend:D.

Have a good day everyone.

tranquil x
 
Hi all xx
Well I am still doing the one day at a time diet!!!
Lol well 4 days in today.
As I cannot trust myself with not calorie counting yet, I guess I have had to put up with it and go back to a very simplified plan to try and counter the compulsive eating.
It doesn't just go away on it's own unfortunately and I have eaten past restriction at times.
So yep, going back to what has worked for me in the past personally and that is to take away any dillydallying around meal times and plan everything out ahead of time.
I might call my team and see what they think of my epic fail last year!!
Not sure about a fill or not now but possibly a half mil would be good.
The next thing would be how much it would cost!! And wether I'm due for an MOT yet...I wonder what my pouch is like after all my erratic eating?
It does worry me a bit.
Anyway, also very importantly, I apologise for the lack of Monday beefcake, we have had some chaps on the thread and I wasn't sure if it would be OK or a bit discouraging??? Hmm anyway,
I am trying to be a reformed struggler so anyone want to do the one day at a time plan with me , please come aboard so we can have more of us following in Mazza and Julie's footsteps (to name but two) and doing fab with the band
 
Hi Neen. I will be taking baby steps. My sleep is much better thanks - the topper is doing the job:D. I suppose I am worrying about work and the awful triggers it can be for eating. I am determined not to undo what I have achieved so far health wise so I am going to be very careful.

I hope you can get in touch with your team and let them help you. You are clearly worried about what has happened in the last year and perhaps an overall check up would help. I know it is going to cost. I hope you can sort something as I am sure if nothing else it would put your mind at rest.

Take care

tranquil x
 
Thanks hunny! Baby steps is definately good! I have my notebook and I am writing down every little thing ( this helps actually as ticking off the easy stuff makes me feel like I am getting somewhere!)
From what I had for breakfast to the tiniest chore like airing the washing...just ticking/crossing it off as I go is helping my poor brain cope with the day a lot better. And if my brain is not frazzled then I am less likely to go face down in a load of naughty foods.
I might go off and put an email together to my team and let you know what they reply x
 
Neen said:
Thanks hunny! Baby steps is definately good! I have my notebook and I am writing down every little thing ( this helps actually as ticking off the easy stuff makes me feel like I am getting somewhere!)
From what I had for breakfast to the tiniest chore like airing the washing...just ticking/crossing it off as I go is helping my poor brain cope with the day a lot better. And if my brain is not frazzled then I am less likely to go face down in a load of naughty foods.
I might go off and put an email together to my team and let you know what they reply x
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Excellent. When things are big - breaking them into little chunks really does help - and as you say with each little thing there is a sense of achievement. Good luck with the email.

tranquil x
 
Thanks TB
This is what I wrote in my email

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I was just wondering if I could ask a couple of questions please?
I had a defill around April last year as I was struggling to eat properly and managed well after,
however I am only a pound or so different in weight now thanks to a lot of comfort eating spoiling my efforts.
It has always been something that has derailed me.
I know what sort of food I should be eating but I was just wondering, is there a point after surgery where you would do a sort of MOT check on the pouch?
When I do follow the right eating plan and exercise I manage well, but I am a bit worried that my boughts of comfort eating / compulsive eating during the time since
my surgery have stretched my pouch.
As you do not do xray fills, how would I know if this has happened?
I am still having to calorie count rather than just choose healthy to get any results which is what has got me wondering.
Now after a year of staying the same when I have still got about 7 stone left to lose , I am wondering what my best course of action would be and
wether I should get another fill or carry on struggling?
Also how much this would cost me as well as cost of check ups etc.
Please help as I really want to get to a healthy bmi this year and I am having trouble believing I am capable of it.
Thanks in advance x


So yeah, see what reply I get, I'll post it if it's of interest !
 
Neen I'd be very interested in reading the reply, as well as doing one day at a time with you. I also find that I do better if I write everything down, however I've currently got a diet sheet from my last appointment so I'm trying to follow that (although I did have a bite of battered sausage form the chippy last night, hastily accompanied be 10 mins exercise bike and 15 mins marching around the living room to counteract it!!!).

TB I hope work goes well next week. Did your headache clear up?

I have another wish in life, after watching The Biggest Loser (USA) I want to try and pull a lorry (and i mean move it you naughty minded peeps ;) !!) it looks like lots of fun. Theres nothing much happening here, I'm trying to get back into the exercise habit this week, I've starting to walk the dog again, the exercise bike has come back out of the toy room and I'm marching around the living room on an evening, I figure that every little helps. I really fancied swimming on Mon but it's my totm so I'll have to wait until next week.

So how is everyone at the moment? I'd be interested to read how everyone is managing and any tips you have? xx
 
Hello Sarah x Certainly anyone struggling can join in!
So far today I have had a slimfast for breakfast
tip for slimfast - use the powdered, I make it with semi skimmed milk which adds 30 calories to it (I don't buy skimmed) also I mix it in a jug blender with tons of ice and it comes out like macdonalds shake texture and is ten times nicer (in my opinion) and there fore more enjoyable and do-able than the instant bottled (which tastes like plastic to me)

Also, I have had a John West light lunch for lunch ! I had the mediterranean style which is very yummy , incredibly filling and only 219 calories. I also like the lime and black pepper one.
Here they are in Tesco anyway...but very good filling meals.
http://www.tesco.com/groceries/Product/Details/?id=262331092
 
I haven't tried slimfast yet, have you tried the biggest loser range?
I had muesli with natural yoghurt instead of milk for breakfast.
A pear as a snack
Lunch was a hard boiled egg, 1 rasher of bacon, tiny amounts of celery and carrot, and mushed spoonful of chickpeas mixed with cumin, lemon, salt and pepper and a bit of oil (much nicer that it sounds). xx
 
Not tried it yet Sarah..it was £1.99 for one serving sachet!!! I might try it if it comes on offer, for now I'm OK with Slimfast...got tons left as well
I might try having the bowl of tuna ready in the fridge again to help with the munchies as that really worked.
Yesterday I was a bit wobbly so I really need a good light day today to balance it out!
 
I managed to re-lose 2lbs of my regain this week but I am still going wishy washy in the evenings.
To try and survive the danger snack zone, I decided I would have a half of a slimfast or even a whole one if I'm desparate.
The way I make it in the blender with all the ice , means that I get about a pint and a half of thick shake with the standard 250mls milk and 2 scoops...so for example the choc one, I make as directed but use semi milk and a lot of ice and it comes out at 260calories for a pint and a half of thick shake..(just to clarify)
I am hoping that this will kill any snack urges dead in the evenings during the coming week, and as I am good with calories right through the day, it won't take me over my calorie limit.
I'll test it for you, as if it stops me from falling off the wagon, it should stop a rampaging rhino.
 
Morning all. Neen two pounds loss is fantastic. I would be interested to see how you go with slimfasts in the evening and if it gets you through.

I am feeling really out of sorts. I know it is down to the change in my BP medication. I also think totm is looming. I forgot to write down when it happened last month - mainly because I was so shocked and thought after a 3 year gap those days were behind me. So I am not sure if what I am feeling is that on its way:rolleyes:. I really am hoping it was a one off.

How is everyone else doing - you are all very quiet:D.

tranquil x
 
Hi Tranquil x I go off the rails emotionally at period time. Maybe the doctor could prescribe something? I bought some seven seas hormone balance capsules to see if that would help, or maybe you could try evening primrose or starflower oil capsules? I know a lot of people do use them to good effect.
Best thing to do is try and distract yourself. I know I am a nerdy geek for suggesting them, but I recommend World of warcraft and the sims 3!!!
Definately absorbing and take my mind off being fed up and diving into the biscuits really well.
Also sounds like you have anxiety over work etc as well...maybe some hypnosis would relax you a bit and boost your confidence?
I have some if you want to try it love x
 
Neen could you send me the links for the relaxation? I am feeling great anxiety about going back to work because I know what I am about to be plunged into. Plus I do not get on with my boss and that is the worst part of it - as I spend most days fighting with her on things. For the first time in years I am thinking of trying to find another job although I know now is not a good time.

Having this enforced break has shown me how bad things are with work - I have been able to relax so much especially in the last 4 weeks as I have started to feel so much better following the trauma of the op. I do not want returning to work to undo all the improvements to my health. So far it has not led me to eat any wrong things - just need to think about my coping strategies for when I do go back. The small saving grace is she goes on holiday two days after I start back so at least I will have 2 weeks without the added hassle of dealing with her.

Need to stop moaning about this or I will make it worse for myself:rolleyes:.

tranquil x
 
I'll pm you the links in a few x
I definately think as the weeks go by and you start to feel better physically and see some weight go, you should definately get your CV up to date and register with some employment agencies xxx Get that working life sorted as it is too big a slice of life to be miserable in.

Just wanted to add this as I was thinking about it further, you say about it being a bad time to change jobs, but I think it could be the perfect time, you were brave enough to go for an operation to change your life as your weight is one of the causes of your unhappiness and discomfort, well your work is another major cause of your unhappiness by what you have said. Why not just be brave again and get yourself out of the situation?
Any downsides eg a pay change etc have got to be overshadowed but getting away from this negative person who's undermining you and your self esteem.
I think it would be a positive step to cut loose and go somewhere new, meet new colleagues and be yourself and stand up for yourself from the start.
Don't tolerate the crap because you feel you aren't able to get something better. This could be the start to a whole new better phase of life, together with the band helping you to cut the weight x Please have a think about it and get that CV out there to some good agencies online.
Even if you don't immediately find something, just knowing that you're declaring yourself available for new jobs and have taken steps to find one should have a really good psycological effect on you and how you cope with work and the cowbag boss from hell till something better turns upx

The anxiety is a signal telling you this situation is not good for you and you need to change it. The anxiety will not go away until you address the cause..eg your job!! Rather than try and suppress your anxiety use it for what is, the trigger to change things for the better x
 
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